As well as reading his books, I have had the great pleasure of attending John's workshops. You simply cannot go wrong by reading his work. Being a mathematician before he became a psychologist led him to do something innovative in this field; he studied healthy couples to get control data. While this might sound like an obvious thing to do, no one had thought to do this before. He proved that healthy couples were not simply the opposite of unhealthy couples. One finding that I share with couples all the time is that he found that, contrary to expectations, healthy couples had lots of negative interactions. What defined them, however, was the greater extent of their positive interactions and their commitment to having fun together.
John's
blog is particularly worth subscribing to. It offers articles with very practical tips on relationship issues with contributions from other professionals as well as Gottman. Topics include dating, relationships, conflict management and parenting as well as the latest research in these areas. It also provides quizzes to allow you to identify the strengths in your relationship and pinpoint areas that may require attention. You can also suggest topics for their blog to write about and there are links to enable you to access a Gottman-trained therapist in your area.