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Cosa ho imparato da 100 giorni di rifiuto

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Jia Jiang si avventura coraggiosamente in un territorio che molti di noi temono: il rifiuto. Cercando occasioni di rifiuto per 100 giorni - dal domandare a uno sconosciuto di prestargli 100 dollari, a chiedere in un ristorante di riempire di nuovo un hamburger - Jiang si è desensibilizzato al dolore e alla vergogna, che accompagnano spesso il rifiuto. Facendo questo, ha scoperto che chiedendo semplicemente ciò che si vuole, si possono aprire possibilità dove ci si aspetterebbe un vicolo cieco.

Jia Jiang si avventura coraggiosamente in un territorio che molti di noi temono: il rifiuto. Cercando occasioni di rifiuto per 100 giorni - dal domandare a uno sconosciuto di prestargli 100 dollari, a chiedere in un ristorante di riempire di nuovo un hamburger - Jiang si è desensibilizzato al dolore e alla vergogna, che accompagnano spesso il rifiuto. Facendo questo, ha scoperto che chiedendo semplicemente ciò che si vuole, si possono aprire possibilità dove ci si aspetterebbe un vicolo cieco.

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