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How changing your story can change your life

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Stories help you make sense of your life -- but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.

Stories help you make sense of your life -- but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.

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Psychotherapist, author

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This talk was presented at a TED Institute event given in partnership with DuPont. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.

Read more about the TED Institute.

Get involved with Bring Change to Mind, a mental health advocacy organization focused on ending the stigma and discrimination surrounding mental illness.