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How can we overcome a fear of love?

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Trillion Small |

TEDxSMUWomen

• November 2018

Irrational or not, love can feel really scary. But is it love itself that we fear? According to counselor Trillion Small, the stories we tell ourselves about negative dating experiences trigger hardwired survival instincts, keeping real connection at arms length. Through an exploration of the brain's processing system and her own dating mishaps, Small explains why negative emotions creep into our perceptions of love and maps an escape from this limiting feedback loop.

Irrational or not, love can feel really scary. But is it love itself that we fear? According to counselor Trillion Small, the stories we tell ourselves about negative dating experiences trigger hardwired survival instincts, keeping real connection at arms length. Through an exploration of the brain's processing system and her own dating mishaps, Small explains why negative emotions creep into our perceptions of love and maps an escape from this limiting feedback loop.

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About the speaker

Trillion Small

Trillion Small has a Ph.D. in Clinical Counseling and is an adjunct professor at The University of Texas at Dallas in the Behavioral & Brain Sciences Department. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified John Maxwell leadership coach. She is the owner of Attachment Leadership, LLC where she provides customized wellness & leadership development programs, emotional intelligence corporate training, and youth development curriculum. Additionally, she is the author of 5 books.

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