Why children stay silent following sexual violence
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Sexual assault is never the victim's fault, says advocate Kristin Jones. In this courageous talk, she tells her story of overcoming the shame that followed sexual abuse as a teenager -- and shares how parents can foster an open conversation about abuse to empower kids and encourage them to ask for help. (This talk contains mature content.)
Sexual assault is never the victim's fault, says advocate Kristin Jones. In this courageous talk, she tells her story of overcoming the shame that followed sexual abuse as a teenager -- and shares how parents can foster an open conversation about abuse to empower kids and encourage them to ask for help. (This talk contains mature content.)
This talk was presented at a TED Institute event given in partnership with Project Management Institute. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.
Read more about the TED Institute.Learn more about sexual violence and its impact worldwide.
About the speaker
Kristin Jones is passionate about engaging people and communities through authenticity and emotional connection.
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This talk was presented at a TED Institute event given in partnership with Project Management Institute. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.
Read more about the TED Institute.Learn more about sexual violence and its impact worldwide.