100日間拒絶チャレンジで学んだこと
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ジャ・ジャンが果敢に挑むのは、私たちの多くが尻込みする領域「拒絶」です。知らない人に100ドル貸してと頼むことに始まって、果てはレストランで「ハンバーガーのお代わり無料サービス」をお願いするなど、100日間拒絶されるという挑戦を行うことで、ジャ・ジャンは、拒絶されたときに起こりがちな精神的な苦痛や恥ずかしさに対する免疫を身につけました。そしてその過程で、自分の希望をただ伝えることで、絶対に無理と思える状況に可能性の扉を開くことができると気づいたのです。
ジャ・ジャンが果敢に挑むのは、私たちの多くが尻込みする領域「拒絶」です。知らない人に100ドル貸してと頼むことに始まって、果てはレストランで「ハンバーガーのお代わり無料サービス」をお願いするなど、100日間拒絶されるという挑戦を行うことで、ジャ・ジャンは、拒絶されたときに起こりがちな精神的な苦痛や恥ずかしさに対する免疫を身につけました。そしてその過程で、自分の希望をただ伝えることで、絶対に無理と思える状況に可能性の扉を開くことができると気づいたのです。
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