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Hvad jeg lærte af 100 dage med afvisninger

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Jia Jiang udforsker modigt et område, som mange af os frygter: afvisning. Ved at opsøge afvisninger i 100 dage -- fra at bede en fremmede om et lån på $100 til at bede om en "burger refill" på en restaurant -- desensibiliserer Jiang sig selv fra smerten og skammen, som afvisning ofte bringer med, og opdagede på samme måde at ved blot at bede om det, som man ønsker, så kan det åbne op for muligheder, hvor man istedet forventede at finde blindgyder.

Jia Jiang udforsker modigt et område, som mange af os frygter: afvisning. Ved at opsøge afvisninger i 100 dage -- fra at bede en fremmede om et lån på $100 til at bede om en "burger refill" på en restaurant -- desensibiliserer Jiang sig selv fra smerten og skammen, som afvisning ofte bringer med, og opdagede på samme måde at ved blot at bede om det, som man ønsker, så kan det åbne op for muligheder, hvor man istedet forventede at finde blindgyder.

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