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La technologie n'a pas changé l'amour, voici pourquoi

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Dans notre monde interconnecté, dirigé par la technologie, nous avons développé de nouvelles méthodes et règles pour séduire mais les principes fondamentaux de l'amour sont restés les mêmes, dit l'anthropologue Helen Fisher. Dans cette intervention révélatrice venant des premières lignes de l'amour, apprenez comment nos connexions plus rapides mènent à des relations plus lentes et intimes. Regardez jusqu'à la fin pour une discussion vivante avec l'experte en amour, Esther Perel.

Dans notre monde interconnecté, dirigé par la technologie, nous avons développé de nouvelles méthodes et règles pour séduire mais les principes fondamentaux de l'amour sont restés les mêmes, dit l'anthropologue Helen Fisher. Dans cette intervention révélatrice venant des premières lignes de l'amour, apprenez comment nos connexions plus rapides mènent à des relations plus lentes et intimes. Regardez jusqu'à la fin pour une discussion vivante avec l'experte en amour, Esther Perel.

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Helen Fisher

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Anthropologist Helen Fisher studies gender differences and the evolution of human emotions. She’s best known as an expert on romantic love.

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