2,908,999 views | Heather Lanier • TED@BCG Milan
"Good" and "bad" are incomplete stories we tell ourselves
Heather Lanier's daughter Fiona has Wolf-Hirschhorn syndrome, a genetic condition that results in developmental delays -- but that doesn't make her tragic, angelic or any of the other stereotypes about kids like her. In this talk about the beautiful, complicated, joyful and hard journey of raising a rare girl, Lanier questions our assumptions about what makes a life "good" or "bad," challenging us to stop fixating on solutions for whatever we deem not normal, and instead to take life as it comes.
This talk was presented at a TED Institute event given in partnership with BCG. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.
Read more about the TED Institute.Heather Lanier's daughter Fiona has Wolf-Hirschhorn syndrome, a genetic condition that results in developmental delays -- but that doesn't make her tragic, angelic or any of the other stereotypes about kids like her. In this talk about the beautiful, complicated, joyful and hard journey of raising a rare girl, Lanier questions our assumptions about what makes a life "good" or "bad," challenging us to stop fixating on solutions for whatever we deem not normal, and instead to take life as it comes.
This talk was presented at a TED Institute event given in partnership with BCG. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.
Read more about the TED Institute.About the speaker
Heather Lanier illuminates truths about the human condition that speak to both the head and the heart.
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