Dites vos vérités et cherchez-les chez autres
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Elizabeth Lesser |
TEDWomen 2016
• October 2016
Dans une présentation lyrique et drôle sur des sujets difficiles tels que les relations effilochées et la mort d'un être aimé, Elizabeth Lesser décrit le processus de guérison qu'est la mise de côté de notre fierté et de notre attitude défensive afin de faire place à la mise à nu de notre âme et la révélation de nos vérités. « Vous n'avez pas besoin d'attendre une situation de vie ou de mort pour nettoyer les relations qui comptent à vos yeux, dit-elle. Soyez un nouveau genre de premier intervenant... celui qui fait le premier pas courageux vers l'autre. »
Dans une présentation lyrique et drôle sur des sujets difficiles tels que les relations effilochées et la mort d'un être aimé, Elizabeth Lesser décrit le processus de guérison qu'est la mise de côté de notre fierté et de notre attitude défensive afin de faire place à la mise à nu de notre âme et la révélation de nos vérités. « Vous n'avez pas besoin d'attendre une situation de vie ou de mort pour nettoyer les relations qui comptent à vos yeux, dit-elle. Soyez un nouveau genre de premier intervenant... celui qui fait le premier pas courageux vers l'autre. »
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