How to find “your thing” (or your many things) – (w/ Constance Hockaday) (Transcript)

[00:00:00] Chris Duffy:
You are listening to How to Be A Better Human. I'm your host, Chris Duffy. Because of the nature of this show where it's an interview with mostly just one person, we tend to feature a lot of people who have very clear ideas about what they do and who they are. They've accomplished something big and they're here to share about it. 


And, that's great, and I think there's a lot to learn from people who are so focused, but I've been thinking about how that can also skew our understanding about what's normal, because most of us don't have just one thing that we've always known was our thing. There's only so many people who can be like, I'm the world's most talented base jumper. 


In fact, there's only one person who can say that, and they're probably currently throwing themselves off a cliff right now. The rest of us juggle a bunch of identities all at once, or we might be fuzzy on exactly what it is that we want to devote our free time or our careers to. We might not know what our identity exactly is. 


For a lot of us, it can feel like our thing is just getting through the day, and that's why I think that today's guest is really special. Constance Hockaday helps people to come up with new visions of leadership and success to strive for, but she also helps broaden ideas about what your thing can be. 


And, she's doing it for everyone, not just the single-minded, passionate sense, birth type people. I also love that Connie is still figuring this out for herself. She describes herself in a lot of different ways, and how she sees herself professionally and personally is always evolving. Here's a clip from her TED Talk. 


[00:01:40] Constance Hockaday:
I work in organizational and leadership development, and I'm an artist. I believed artists are leaders in expressing things that humankind often doesn't know how to say yet. So, that's why I invited a bunch of artists to do a leadership makeover. They wrote public addresses. They made leadership portraits. 
I call them the Artists-In-Presidents.

Since 2020, over 70 Artists-In-Presidents have contributed to the digital archive. They're North American, indigenous, international, and stateless. They're artists with disabilities. They're queer. They make beautiful attempts at embodying inclusive performances of leadership and power. 


Some sung, others looked to repair the past, one person used artificial intelligence to write her speech, and one person just straight up wrote a curse, and so many more.

But, what really surprised me was that a lot of us struggled to say something new, to articulate what we want with authority. 


[00:02:52] Chris Duffy:
We're gonna talk with Connie a lot about that struggle to say something new and how to articulate what it is that we want. But, first we're gonna articulate some podcast ads. Don't go anywhere. 


We're here with Constance Hockaday talking about art, organization, and figuring out who the heck you are.
[00:03:45] Constance Hockaday:
Hi, I am Constance Hockaday. Most people call me Connie. I have a really hard time introducing myself at parties because some weird things have come together in this life that make me who I am. I'm an artist. 


I make large scale public interventions, usually socially engaged artwork. And, I also work in organizational development and leadership development. So, that means I'm a facilitator, a coach, uh, a mediator, a culture builder. Uh, yeah, that's who I am. 


[00:04:21] Chris Duffy:
I think it's really fascinating how you have all these different parts of yourself and you've had a career where you've reinvented yourself a bunch of different times. 
And, I think when I talk to people in the real world, one of the biggest questions they have is about like, figuring out who they are and like, what are they gonna do next, and what, what is their passion? It's, it's less about like, how do I accomplish my passion more, like, what is it? So, I wonder how you think about those questions. 


'Cause you have had this life of an artist and you've had a, a corporate job and you've been a speaker and a leader and all these different things. How do you think about it for yourself? 


[00:04:54] Constance Hockaday:
At moments, there is like the clouds break and there's a clearing of vision, of like, oh yeah, all of that stuff is me, and lives inside of me and all of that stuff supports the other stuff, right? 


It's all the same expression. It's all my expression, but it's really hard. I grew up in a house, middle class family with, you know, my mother is an immigrant from Chile. My dad is like a good old boy, Texan. And, you know, I grew up like with the expectation that I would go to college and that I would become a professional, hopefully one that 
could support my parents in their old age, right? Like doctor, lawyer, architect, you would be such an amazing arc-.

You know, my dad, even in my early twenties, was sending me books on like social marketing, you know, just like trying to get me to like, about a job and it, but, but I've never done that. I, I really have never been able to do that. 


And, that doesn't mean that I haven't tried and that it hasn't kind of been a painful struggle the whole time. You know? 


[00:06:06] Chris Duffy:
I think all of this is interesting because it also, in your work, I, a lot of times have seen your artwork as causing us to have opportunities to think differently about maybe the goals that we have or what society tells us we're supposed to want. 


A lot of your projects play with those ideas of like what it means to be prepared or what it means to be successful. Those are things that it seems like you explore in your work.
[00:06:31] Constance Hockaday:
So, I grew up in South Texas. My grandfather was the only doctor and one of the first mayors of this like tiny little town that I grew up in.

My father is a marine biologist and he's also a sportsman, and he also was in the Coast Guard, so hanging out with him was a lot about how to survive a shipwreck, basically. Like, all of our activities were, if you get fatigued offshore, like do this dead man's float and rotate back and forth so you don't get sunburned. 


Like, I had to wear a whistle around my neck so that if I got hurt I could blow the whistle and he could come and get me. Like, if you land on a sandy shore from a shipwreck, like dig a hole in the sand and the fresh water will rise up and you can drink the fresh water off of the sand. And, so he really did teach me a lot about how to survive so many things, but I don't feel like I ever learned how to get on the ship in the first place. 


Like, I wasn't taught, you know, what ship did I wanna get on? How was I gonna get on it? That set me up for this kinda weird paradox where I believed that there were shipwrecks in my future and that I had what I needed to survive this extraordinary thing. But, I didn't know how to get onto the extraordinary thing to begin with. 
So, you know, what happened was, is that I was expected to go away and go to college and the big, big city, you know, and 
when I got there, I, I was really, really, it was very depressing to me. Like, the options that were in front of me were all so, so boring and I, I got pretty depressed. I, I figured out that I was queer. 


I like to say like, I didn't even know what queer was, you know, until Ellen DeGeneres came out on television when I was like 15 years old. And, so I just couldn't hang, like I, I, I dropped outta college. I ended up back in my small little hometown, like renting umbrellas on the beach, really just totally lost.

Then, one day I went over the bridge and I, I saw these floating structures and there were these people living on rafts. That spectacle in the image of it, I can see that you are disturbing the entire order of things here. It's a different life and I, I just didn't have access to a lot of images like that, you know, growing up where I did. 


[00:08:59] Chris Duffy:
I feel like that's often one of the biggest things about finding who you wanna be or your own path is just even understanding what is possible. Sometimes you have to have like a vision of what it could look like before you even imagine it for yourself. And, that, that, for you, it sounds like was the Floating Neutrinos. 
Can you explain what the Floating Neutrinos are and who they are?


[00:09:23] Constance Hockaday:
Oh, yeah. Yeah. Um, the Floating Neutrinos are a group of psychospiritual warriors who live on homemade rafts. They've lived on homemade rafts for decades. They raise their children on rafts and the idea being that a raft is a place that you can live on the water that is rent free. 


So, on the water, there are different set of laws, like maritime laws, kind of, in short allows you to own the space that you're occupying in any given moment because it's a moving landscape, right? You can't, nobody can claim a part of the water. It's always moving. And, so the Floating Neutrinos, were on a, on a, a journey to, to find liberation like a spiritual journey, and the rafts were a tool basically to get out from underneath, like rent and the boss and whatever, so that they could own their own time and have freedom of movement. They also had beyond the spectacle, a lot of very practical, beautiful teachings and information that, that I took from that relationship. 


[00:10:32] Chris Duffy:
And, and this isn't a, a group that you've spent a lot of time with and been really influenced by. And, then something that's interesting to me is, you know, you've lived in that world and you spent, you spent a lot of time in organizational development too. So, you've been in these like very corporate spaces where people aren't, you know, psychospiritual warriors maybe as much. 


Or, or maybe they are. Like, I'm curious to hear how you, how you see those two worlds combining or. 


[00:10:52] Constance Hockaday:
I mean, it's all world building. It's all world and culture building. Living in community in small spaces, you know, especially small spaces that are in motion, I did it with the Floating Neutrinos, I did it with Swoon on Swoon Swimming Cities projects, 
I did it in my own projects, like, and being a leader in that space, the stakes are very, very high. There's a lot to manage and a lot of group process and, and a lot of people aligning. I tell executives this all the time, especially when I'm leading, like, you know, they're leadership retreats or something. 


I'm just like, working with you guys is so much easier than being an artist. This is a breeze compared to, compared to, like, crossing the Adriatic Sea with like a bunch of fabricators and performance artists and trying to get everybody on the same page and dealing with all the interpersonal dynamics and, like, helping people understand how we're gonna deal with when we land at the Venice Biennale or whatever it is, right? 


So, it is all world building. It's all culture building, it's a lot of interpersonal communication, a lot of group process and facilitation and, and I think corporations, especially like mission-driven corporations, but any corporation, like there's a vision that we're trying to move towards, right? 


There is a higher power if you, if you wanna call it that. And, it's that vision, it's that higher power that, that will ultimately, if you can cultivate enough belief in it, enough credibility in the thing that you're moving towards, people's behaviors conform to that, that higher power that we're all committing ourselves to. 


So, in that sense, like I don't think that corporations are without spirit. And, I may, I may regret saying that someday, but like right now, I, I think that moving a bunch of people in a direction towards something that maybe has never existed before, like especially businesses that are trying to make the world a better place, whatever, like it takes a certain amount of, of spirit, of life force and believing and, and discipline around how we work together.

And, and those are, are not very different qualities of living in an intentional community on a raft or, or creating a large art project in public space. 


[00:13:30] Chris Duffy:
Alright, everybody hold onto your rafts because we are about to take a quick break and then we will be right back with more from Connie. 


We're talking with Connie Hockaday about how to figure out who we are and what we want to do, and Connie's not just someone who helps other people do that. She's also figuring those things out for herself as a lifelong process. Here's another clip from Connie's TED Talk. 


[00:14:00] Constance Hockaday:
When I was in my early twenties, I met Captain Betsy. 


I was queer, depressed, feeling totally alone in my tiny South Texas town on the Gulf of Mexico. And, by the time Betsy landed in my town, she had been living on homemade rafts for decades with a group called the Floating Neutrinos. She had captained over a dozen rafts, including one across the Atlantic Ocean. 


So, obviously I was very taken by this, not because I wanted to permanently live on a raft, but because I wanted to believe in an extraordinary life. And, Betsy was the first person to ever ask me what it is that I wanted. So, in my life, Betsy modeled for me what it meant to articulate my desires, and in lending her faith to me, she was also giving it back to herself. 


[00:14:54] Chris Duffy:
So, in the TED Talk, you talk about Captain Betsy as someone who really influenced you and was a mentor to you. And, one of the tools that Captain Betsy taught you was this concept of the three deepest desires. Can you explain that concept and, and talk about what you found by doing it?

[00:15:10] Constance Hockaday:
It's one of the most important things that's ever happened to me. 
Basically, they were the first people to ever ask me what it is that I wanted from this life, and no one had ever asked me what I wanted and I didn't believe that I could live the life that I wanted to live outside of, of what I understood was the, what you were supposed to do, right. Get a job, like whatever. 


And, it really, really kind of sent me into meltdown mode. Like, I would cry because I couldn't authentically connect to a feeling of desire for this life that was, this was truly mine. And, Betsy would be like, “Look, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter,” like, she's like, “You just have to want it.” You know?

And, so the idea of the three deepest desires is, is this exercise of defining what it is you authentically desire for this life. 


And, they become kind of like guideposts. And, the game is very much like, okay, you're gonna die. You're all, we're gonna die and you could die tomorrow. What is one thing that you need to do before you die? What is one thing that you desire before you die? And, once you could answer that question, what's the second thing that you want, need desire before you die?


And, the idea of the threes is that if you, if you are singularly focused in this life and something gets in your way you're, you're sort of, we're thwarted, right? And, if it's two things, then you create this polarity or this binary that is unresolvable. And, so if you have sort of three guideposts, three, three desires in this life that are, that are pulling you forward, then you're not stuck in that, in that binary or in that singular thinking. 


And, so we use the three deepest desires as, uh, like as a, it's a, it's like a calibration tool. It's a decision-making tool. It is, it is a way of balancing and orienting oneself and it's a practice. And, so when Betsy's saying It doesn't matter what you say, when you come back tomorrow and ask yourself this again, you may be able to find a deeper and deeper feeling of, of an articulation of desire. And, so it's a, it's a lifetime practice and then you realize like, oh wait, I think something has changed in me and you can reevaluate like what has changed? How, how has my desire shifted?

But, the point of the, all of this is like, you could die tomorrow and so you better be living your life guided by the things that you care about the most and not mortgaging your present for some like future that may never come. 
Right?

[00:17:40] Chris Duffy:
I'm curious how often yours shift, like how often do your three deepest desires change? Or, are they kind of stable over long periods of time?
[00:17:49] Constance Hockaday:
Well, in the beginning they were, they were ridiculous. Like, I mean, not to be mean to myself or anything, but like, you know, the first desire I was ever really able to articulate was so weird. 


I was like, “I wanna see a waterfall!” You know, like, 'cause there, you know, I grew up in a really flat place, you know, whatever. I wanted to see a waterfall and like fall in love or something, you know? And, but, at this point, you know, they have stayed really stable and it, it's moved away from like, I wanna see a thing, do a thing, have a thing, and it's moved more into, to, I wanna embody a thing. 


So, today, my three deepest desires are to have a home. And, what I mean by that is a relationship with the place that I feel stewardship over. The second one is to live in creative community. So, it's a feeling that I'm identifying right now that isn't gonna be perfectly articulated. I, I think in this moment, but it's a feeling of, of living outside of nuclear family and in, in play and improvisation with people.

And, the last one is sort of like a, a service role. It's like, in the past I've called it like being a teacher of hope. Hope's not the right word, but it's the closest one. It's like a, a teacher of, of change, of, of possibility. 


[00:19:34] Chris Duffy:
I love those. 


[00:19:36] Constance Hockaday:
Felt pretty honest. Go ahead. 
What are yours? 


[00:19:39] Chris Duffy:
And, this is the first time I've ever done this, so tell me if, if I am either dodging it or need to be more precise or something. 


[00:19:46] Constance Hockaday:
Okay. So, what I want you to do is picture yourself in your life and hold the reality that you could die tomorrow. You could die next month. You don't know how long you have in this life. 


But, you have the opportunity to, to do one thing, find one thing, be one thing before you die, what do you desire? 


[00:20:15] Chris Duffy:
The first thing for sure is to make sure that the people who I love know that I love them, to express that and to make it be felt and seen. You know, I'm in this moment where, as we're recording this, my wife and I are about to have our first kid. And, so, like, wanting her to know how much I love her, wanting my family to know how much I love and I'm grateful for them. Wanting my friends and community to know that and, also, like this baby who is not yet there, wanting that baby to like start life understanding how much I love and care for them is like the most important thing by far. 


[00:20:57] Constance Hockaday:
That's so beautiful. Okay. Because you were brave and honest about the thing you really desire, you now have the opportunity to choose one more thing and after you complete this thing, you die. 


[00:21:17] Chris Duffy:
Hmm. You know, I'm working on, I'm working on this book that's the biggest project that I've ever worked on and the most long term of a project, and it feels like, I think if I do it honestly, and if I, actually, don't try and think about like what other people will think, but just put myself into it, I think it'll be the first time that all these different things that I've worked on that feel so disparate come together. 


And, so I think having this out there in a way that I'm proud of, that feels like that's something I really want to have in the world before I die, for sure. 


[00:21:53] Constance Hockaday:
Awesome. Okay, so, and now you have a third.
[00:21:59] Chris Duffy:
Uh, I'll be honest about what is coming into my head, which is that I have a friend here in Los Angeles, her, her name is Maureen. 


She's about to become 102, and I just have so much fun spending time with her and I really enjoy her and, partly, you know, because of the nature of being 102, I, I feel like I'm like, I wanna spend as much time with Maureen as I can to like really get all my, all my Mo time in. And, that feels really important too. 


[00:21:34] Constance Hockaday:
I love that. I mean, it's not about me. But, I do love that. Yeah.

[00:21:37] Chris Duffy:
Okay.

[00:21:38] Constance Hockaday:
Okay. So, now that you have these three deepest desires, you could, if you wanted to, you could write them down. I like to draw a triangle. We call them TR, your triad. So, you could, or, it's, it, it is how people use values or how, you know, especially in like leadership development, we talk about values and living your values, right? 


So, so yeah. So, that is how, how you, and it's also important I think for your wife and the people that you love to understand that that is what is driving you forward, where your heart really is. Because, at the core of our relationships, at least for me, it's that we help each other get what we, what the other wants. 


The first thing we come together around is supporting each other in our three deepest desires. 


[00:23:32] Chris Duffy:
Something that I'm really, is really striking me right now is the idea of it being three, right? The idea of not one, not this one singular goal or this, you know, kind of binary two, but instead there being three things. 


But, one thing that it makes me think about is a lot of times when I talk to people who are not artists, but want to be, something that really holds them back is this idea of like, but how will I make money? And, the idea that art is only valuable if it is your day job. And, something that I've found is that, you know, it not being the one thing, this is where the, the idea of the three comes in for me is that like it actually often, I make better work when I'm not necessarily trying to think about like, how is my artistic creative work gonna make money, but like, I'm gonna take care of the money in some other way and then I'm just free to do this. And, then I also have, you know, things that are satisfying personally in other ways too. 


So, like that idea of spreading the pressure out rather than having it so singularly focused often really unlocks a lot of creativity for me and freedom to be creative. But, I think people often think that that's it like, doesn't count. Like, if that's not what you declare on your taxes, then you're not really an artist.
[00:24:43] Constance Hockaday:
Yeah. I had that problem for a while too. I have to admit. And, I think that if we're not honest about the constellations, that sort of, that we're sort of navigating by, we can get like really lost and sick. If, for example, you are a workaholic, even if you are an artist and it's what you declare on your taxes and it's the only thing that you care about, you may lose a chance at having a family or having intimacy or having a sense of belonging. 


And, so it's always gonna be a constellation. Like, those tensions, those competing values are always gonna be there. It's, it's how we balance and hold space for all of the things that are actually driving us forward. And, when we can name them, then they won't come out sideways somewhere else, you know? 


Does that make sense? 


[00:25:45] Chris Duffy:
Absolutely. Oh yeah. So, can you tell us about the projects that you've worked on in the past and also what you're working on right now, if anything?
[00:25:52] Constance Hockaday:
Yeah. 


[00:25:53] Chris Duffy:
For people who can't see, we're, we're talking to you and you are sitting in your studio right now, like that's where we're talking to you. 
The physical space you're in.

[00:25:59] Constance Hockaday:
Yeah. So, my art practice, you know, thanks to the Floating Neutrinos, a lot of it was born, a lot of it was like waterborne, waterborne, I called them waterborne coping strategies. Like, the work was very much about water as, as a public space, water as a place that is what I like to call fast land, space that functions under a different set of laws where we can hopefully find like a relationship to the natural world around us. Like, a, a, a voice, a voice for things that are not able to be expressed on land, blah, blah, blah. So, it's convoluted. This is also very hard for me to explain at parties when they're like, what kind of artist are you? 


I'm like, oh God. So, one, here, I'll just examples. One time I built a hotel, a floating hotel out of a bunch of boats that were gonna get sent to the dump. It was in Jamaica Bay, Queens, right off the A train. It was a, a bunch of boats offshore, and I rented them out like hotel rooms. And, there was a stage in the middle and, you know, over 5,000 people came to the motel over a period of a summer. 


And, it was all about like creating this temporary infrastructure that gave New Yorkers access to their largest public space, which is the water and, and which they have very little, like, designated access to. And, this project, like others is, is, there's this idea that like the infrastructure of our cities can create our deepest ideas and beliefs about ourselves and where we can and can't put our body, right? 

So, if there's not a staircase that goes straight from, from the city into the water, it's gonna be really hard for us to imagine that the water is a place for our body. And, as opposed to like in Santa Cruz where there are staircases that go straight into these crazy crashing waves and people are walking down them with their children, right? 


It goes, jump in and go surfing. And, so then I created a, a floating peep show. So, there were a bunch of queer performance spaces and queer spaces in San Francisco that were all kind of shuttered at the, around the same time. And, so I invited people who were performers in those spaces to, to create a, a peep show inside the halls of a bunch of different sailboats. 


And, so we had this situation where these audience members were coming and they were either friends, you know, friends are associated with the working class sailors that had lent me their sailboats or they were friends or associated with a bunch of drag queens and sex workers. And, so they were all sort of in this floating landscape together, experiencing the, these, uh, performances inside the holes of boats.

That's sort of like a taste of the water works. Like, I've also moved into a few other spaces, like really around this idea of preparedness, American ideas of survival disaster in the future. Those were installations usually in inside art, art spaces at the Headland Center for the Arts or, and that kind of veers into what I'm working on right now, which I call “Disaster Furniture Showroom.”

So, “Disaster Furniture Showroom” is a furniture store, you know, on the street and you go inside and it's only like finely crafted furniture that is, is responding to people's ideas or fears about the coming future. And, so, for me, that's about overriding our normalcy bias. Like, we have a normalcy bias that everything is, is normal and it's really hard for us to conceptually wrap our heads around this slow-motion disaster of climate change.

And, oftentimes it takes like practice or physical signals to get us out of our normalcy bias, which is why we do things like fire drills. And, so I wanna create furniture for people's homes. It's like a disaster preparedness side table, like a headboard that holds the ceiling up in case of an earthquake. 


You know, like that type of thing. And, I imagine it being like maybe even slightly ASMR, sort of, sensual experience of like peace and calm that you walk into. And, then the, the salespeople are performers that are, that are bringing you into this conversation about what you fear about the future and how you're responding to that fear so that you're not just stuck in this loop of, like, laying in your bed at night with that anxiety about what's gonna happen, what's gonna happen, but never actually taking any action towards it. 


[00:30:30] Chris Duffy:
It's also a great example of like how a sense of humor or a good joke can make us see that, like, the object is absurd in a way, but also the way that we live in our normal life is even more absurd to pretend that this won't happen. 


[00:30:43] Constance Hockaday:
Yeah, totally. 


[00:30:45] Chris Duffy:
You talked about how when you first engaged with the Floating Neutrinos, it was a time when you were like figuring out yourself and you didn't even, like, know in some ways about the possibility of queerness and I, I feel like this is one of the things that is so important about questioning structures around gender identity, around sexual identity, is that, like, the boxes don't actually fit anyone? There's no one who is just this one set thing that society has kind of like built an expectation of that. That's not true for anyone, regardless of how they identify, you always have to figure out like, who am I and what does this look like for myself and who do I want to be with and what does that relationship look like? 


Or, is there a relationship? Right? The more that we get away from like the set ideas of this is the one way things are, the more that everyone is forced to reconcile with who they actually are and what they actually want. 


[00:31:38] Constance Hockaday:
In some ways, our identity there is also sort of a set of ready-made identities on the wall, masks that we grab and we put on and we're like, oh, I'm this option, I'm that option. Right? And, the, those masks show up in all parts of our lives, like in our, in our sexualities, in, in our gender expressions, in the way we show up as parents, in the way we show up as leaders, as neighbors. Like, whatever we, we choose or we are attached, whether we realize or not to certain identities or, or certain masks. 


And, sometimes that stuff gets mixed up. You know, and you, you believe that to show up as a parent, you have to show up with this mask on, but who you really are and what you truly desire will come out sideways. Just like my queerness will come out sideways if I'm to wear a different mask or the type of leader that you're trying to be. 


If you're wearing some inherited mask of like white male performances of power, but that isn't really what you are, what your community needs, it will come out sideways. And, so I guess that's another way to bring it back to like the importance of, of owning your authentic self. You know?

[00:33:00] Chris Duffy:
Well, Connie, it has been, uh, truly, it has been such a pleasure talking to you. 

I'm so glad we, we were able to make this happen, and thank you so much for being here on the show. 


[00:33:08] Constance Hockaday:
Thank you. I loved that. 


[00:33:13] Chris Duffy:
That is it for today's episode of How to Be A Better Human. Thank you so much to today's guest, Connie Hockaday. I am your host, Chris Duffy, and you can find more from me, including my weekly newsletter and other projects at chrisduffycomedy.com.

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