Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger:
Our story of rape and reconciliation

TEDWomen 2016 · 19:06 · Filmed Oct 2016
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In 1996, Thordis Elva shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student from Australia. After a school dance, Tom raped Thordis, after which they parted ways for many years. In this extraordinary talk, Elva and Stranger move through a years-long chronology of shame and silence, and invite us to discuss the omnipresent global issue of sexual violence in a new, honest way. For a Q&A with the speakers, visit

Thordis Elva is one of the two authors of "South of Forgiveness," a unique collaboration between a survivor and perpetrator of rape. Full bio
Co-author, landscape gardener
Tom Stranger is the co-author "South of Forgiveness." Full bio
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