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Why I gave my teenage daughter a vibrator

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Robin Buckley |

TEDxPortsmouth

• May 2022

"Why does a vibrator make us uncomfortable, but Viagra does not?" asks cognitive-behavioral coach Robin Buckley. Sharing her own personal story of empowering her teenage daughter to explore the power of pleasure, Buckley encourages parents to talk to their teens about healthy sexual development -- and shares why the awkward conversations are worth it.

"Why does a vibrator make us uncomfortable, but Viagra does not?" asks cognitive-behavioral coach Robin Buckley. Sharing her own personal story of empowering her teenage daughter to explore the power of pleasure, Buckley encourages parents to talk to their teens about healthy sexual development -- and shares why the awkward conversations are worth it.

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Robin Buckley

Executive coach

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This talk was presented to a local audience at TEDxPortsmouth, an independent event. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.

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Support girls and their voices by visiting Assembly, a Malala Fund publication.