Esther Perel

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

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Filmed Jan 2013 at TEDSalon NY2013
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In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

Esther Perel
/ Relationship therapist

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is changing the conversation on what it means to be in love and have a fulfilling sex life.  Full bio.

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