Feb 7 2012: listen, thanks i really appreciate it because you sound well meaning however life doesn't have any point save the one that i give it, and saying that i am living to 'protect and serve' so to speak, isn't how i love. and to be honest it sounds a little rude that you would refer to me as someone who would die as so someone else could live. i guess i try and learn from our mistakes, i don't believe theres any honor in dying so a woman can live; in order to protect her and my children. to me theres more honor in showing compassion or being honest.
we used to sword fight to 'protect our honor' in order to win the hand of a women. in the same sense i don't see people trying to kill me for the girl i am with, but i don't hang around jelous people and my life is worth more to me than someone elses, not because im better, but because of what my life means to me.. an opportunity to grow, and if i gave that up at the drop of a hat i probably havn't done what i meant to do.
i believe i can come up with a higher life purpose with deeper meaning than that, if my life purpose was simply to enjoy myself and others as much as i can in every moment, i think i would lead a more fulfilling life than that; and be a much more enjoyable husband if i ever decide to 'get married' in an institution lols. although from what i understand about marriage its our way of giving people an opportunity to express love in a long term relationship and im not saying i can't be committed or anything its just i see alot of people going into it for loads of different reasons, some to settle down, some because their parents and society told them to, etc etc. im kinda glad we don't have arraged marriages here but i hear in some cultures it works.
Feb 7 2012: ''honour' kill' may i direct your attention to the comment below,' Where you would be willing to die so they could live.'
i don't see male as better than, female or female better than, male. we're just different, the matter of superiority and inferiority is simply a question of humility in my opionion. this idea of better seduces people, i can say hey, i am 'better' than you! and give lots of so called evidence to prove it, and if loads of people agree with me you wouldn't feel too good, likewise people could do the same to me,
personally i believe if god didn't want people to have sex she wouldn't have given us the tools, and i don't see sex as criminal but yet i respect your point of view so thanks for adding.
Feb 6 2012: thanks for your response; here is another one of mine, im going to challege you a little here but stay with it; its for benefit. while i understand my values have changed (i change them myself hehe) and will change as i grow and develop, i would say so does societies, as each person changes their values until the majority of that society has similar values and the old ones are dropped or changed or clung to w/e, so im sure im not the only one that does that, and this is kinda how i picture a societies values changing whether its accurate or not im not sure, however i would say what people consider appropriate behavior changes as well as time goes on, it used to be appropriate to burn people at a stake or to hit children in school, and it 'probably' changes as people become more aware of the consequences of that and our consciousness grows,
i like your pee analogy lol;
but frankly i see more and more people valuing confidence as i grow older, and assertiveness rather than domination, for instance being an assertive male may be considered to people more valuable than being a dominate male, someone who can express themselves and communicate etc, thats kinda why im bringing up male sexuality so my brothers from other mothers can has some more infos.
i recognize some potential similarities between our sexualities male and female, and we could agree on certain things like, perhaps 'pleasure principle' and what pleases us most, but im not going to pretend to be an expert on feminine sexuality because i'm male myself and in the process of exploring mine more haha.
thanks again for your reply :>
Jan 3 2012: tis funny because the head of the catholic church in 1999 came out and said hell cannot be attributed to god because of gods merciful love, the concept of hell with fire and brimstone's in the bibles represents the frustration and agony someone goes through if they seperate themselves from god which he describes as the source of life and joy.
then he goes on to say people should be careful interpreting metaphysical texts.
Jan 3 2012: some people mix up the golden rule and put it as 'treat another instead of yourself' which is what the 'selfless' people do, who somehow see themselves as being unworthy of being treated well by themselves or others, but make no mistake the payoff there is they get to feel massive self pity and feel really sorry for themselves which some people actually get a kick out of. ill be honest i only know because ive been there.
i believe everyone is doing everything for themselves, which means in one way or another we are doing everything for eachother.
Jan 3 2012: in short is has to do with our perception, which is based on our perspective, which is based on our theology and awareness, its funny because of what theology means to me, put loosely theo-logy, or god-logic.
personally i don't believe there is any such thing as the ten commandments, if there was there wouldn't be war; especially by the people who claim to believe in them. some people believe in god, that's cool nothing wrong with that, but its what they believe about god that seems to cause them so much trouble and confusion, some people believe god gave them free will then commanded them; which is an entire contradiction in itself, firstly because people believe god issues commands and secondly because it violates free will.
but like i said it has to do with theology, and its a really sensitive topic, like extremely sensitive.
Jan 3 2012: "do unto others as they would do unto you."
ive also heard it put as,
treat another as yourself,
treat another how you would like to be treated,
there is a concept of a truth called 'we are all one'
i say truth because it is true for some people,
if you can conceive of another person as a part of yourself and not apart from yourself
of course a majority of people believe in seperation theology, and the concept of we are all one is in unity theology, or oneness theology.
a quicker way to do this is to see human beings as family, extensions of your family, comprising the entirety of the human race;
and what you do for one you do for the whole, even at some microscopic level,
what you do for one part of the human race, you do for the whole human race.
and if you were in seperation theology it would seem like there are many races, some better than others and some not related or connected to eachother in any way. so what you do to one person, doesn't really matter because they arnt apart of the human race.
which doesn't make any sense, but none the less, people act this way; its a truth many people have forgotten, which is why there is a world oneness day now so people can remember.
when you lose sight that we are all in this together, it may look like we are all in this alone.
Jan 3 2012: conceiving, and comprehending, using imagination, i believe in creative energy that comes from my spirit, i would also say opposite to destructive, yet even that i consider creative because you have to conceive of something destructive you want to do or something you want to destroy which is therefore creative.
some people are less destructive, and accept that they are creative at some level, some people think they arn't creative at all and deny that they are creative so they are probably more destructive. lol thats my reasoning hope you like it.
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we used to sword fight to 'protect our honor' in order to win the hand of a women. in the same sense i don't see people trying to kill me for the girl i am with, but i don't hang around jelous people and my life is worth more to me than someone elses, not because im better, but because of what my life means to me.. an opportunity to grow, and if i gave that up at the drop of a hat i probably havn't done what i meant to do.
i believe i can come up with a higher life purpose with deeper meaning than that, if my life purpose was simply to enjoy myself and others as much as i can in every moment, i think i would lead a more fulfilling life than that; and be a much more enjoyable husband if i ever decide to 'get married' in an institution lols. although from what i understand about marriage its our way of giving people an opportunity to express love in a long term relationship and im not saying i can't be committed or anything its just i see alot of people going into it for loads of different reasons, some to settle down, some because their parents and society told them to, etc etc. im kinda glad we don't have arraged marriages here but i hear in some cultures it works.
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i don't see male as better than, female or female better than, male. we're just different, the matter of superiority and inferiority is simply a question of humility in my opionion. this idea of better seduces people, i can say hey, i am 'better' than you! and give lots of so called evidence to prove it, and if loads of people agree with me you wouldn't feel too good, likewise people could do the same to me,
personally i believe if god didn't want people to have sex she wouldn't have given us the tools, and i don't see sex as criminal but yet i respect your point of view so thanks for adding.
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i like your pee analogy lol;
but frankly i see more and more people valuing confidence as i grow older, and assertiveness rather than domination, for instance being an assertive male may be considered to people more valuable than being a dominate male, someone who can express themselves and communicate etc, thats kinda why im bringing up male sexuality so my brothers from other mothers can has some more infos.
i recognize some potential similarities between our sexualities male and female, and we could agree on certain things like, perhaps 'pleasure principle' and what pleases us most, but im not going to pretend to be an expert on feminine sexuality because i'm male myself and in the process of exploring mine more haha.
thanks again for your reply :>
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then he goes on to say people should be careful interpreting metaphysical texts.
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i believe everyone is doing everything for themselves, which means in one way or another we are doing everything for eachother.
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personally i don't believe there is any such thing as the ten commandments, if there was there wouldn't be war; especially by the people who claim to believe in them. some people believe in god, that's cool nothing wrong with that, but its what they believe about god that seems to cause them so much trouble and confusion, some people believe god gave them free will then commanded them; which is an entire contradiction in itself, firstly because people believe god issues commands and secondly because it violates free will.
but like i said it has to do with theology, and its a really sensitive topic, like extremely sensitive.
A comment on Conversation: Can we "improve" on the "Golden Rule"?
ive also heard it put as,
treat another as yourself,
treat another how you would like to be treated,
there is a concept of a truth called 'we are all one'
i say truth because it is true for some people,
if you can conceive of another person as a part of yourself and not apart from yourself
of course a majority of people believe in seperation theology, and the concept of we are all one is in unity theology, or oneness theology.
a quicker way to do this is to see human beings as family, extensions of your family, comprising the entirety of the human race;
and what you do for one you do for the whole, even at some microscopic level,
what you do for one part of the human race, you do for the whole human race.
and if you were in seperation theology it would seem like there are many races, some better than others and some not related or connected to eachother in any way. so what you do to one person, doesn't really matter because they arnt apart of the human race.
which doesn't make any sense, but none the less, people act this way; its a truth many people have forgotten, which is why there is a world oneness day now so people can remember.
when you lose sight that we are all in this together, it may look like we are all in this alone.
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some people are less destructive, and accept that they are creative at some level, some people think they arn't creative at all and deny that they are creative so they are probably more destructive. lol thats my reasoning hope you like it.