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I'm passionate about

My work, acting as i discovered gave me the maximum pleasure and satisfaction. It is supported by my intense need to remain healthy and positive in my attitude whatever the hurdles.

An idea worth spreading

There will always be a 1000 excuses for not doing something but the real reason is YOU. If you want something in your life, never give up on it,. You can make it happen for yourself. To turn from a catterpillar to a butterfly, one has to break the comfort coccoon, spread your wings and fly. The journey can be integrated into the 10 "C" curiousity, creativity communication, character, courage, conviction, competance, charisma, comman sense and the most important COMMITMENT. You can be anything you want to be, if you believe in yourself. Any change will always have friction but to retract is to allow erosion, to continue with perserverance will allow you to sculpt, to create the vision you have of yourself. The dynamism can be cultivated, we can better ourselves each day in every sphere that we choose. Do not let circumstances, people or your own pessimism bog you down. Positivity is the secret of buoyancy, you can learn to keep your head above the water and swim to discover new lands.

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Your innermost fears, dreams, ambitions. Your health concerns, bringing up children with the right value system, discovering the you in you. Make me your life coach and allow your dreams to unfold.

People don't know that I'm good at

Speaking to people, helping them come out of their shell. Yoga, diet and staying young without pills. At inter personal relationships...a pschyiatrist, a friend, counsellor, guide.

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• A comment on Conversation: What subjects do you think you should be taught at school nowadays?

  Sep 9 2011: Considering our political situation right now...i would have to say POLITICS...our country needs more educated young people in our governing bodies. To be able to come up with logical/out of the box solutions, to have the drive ability n stamina to take each task to its ultimate goal.
  To mould young minds right from the start the efficient, corruption free, focused way to run a country....im sure a lot of our youth are geared for it.

• A comment on Conversation: What is the single most important question that the youth of this era need to ask themselves?

  Sep 9 2011: I think the youth of today are burdened with far more choices/decisions to make and almost an overkill of information. The youth of today primarily need to be able to be able to rest their minds so as to be able to analyse, segregate, then make and enjoy the decisions that they make in their life.
  There is so much pressure to do things, so much competion, a crazy rush to be more successful than the other.
  The constant drive/need to push down the other to be able to be ahead. We push children straight from childhood into adulthood. Where is the time for them to enjoy learning, discovering their desires maybe even some hidden talents that lie latent for years.
  Where is the time for them to live in the moment and enjoy it?
  The youth have to learn to preserve their energies so as not to get burnt out soon...enjoy each phase of life, discover themselves.

• A comment on Conversation: What ingredients do you put into making a CHOICE / DECISION?

  Sep 9 2011: If its a decision that affects others in enormity it is of primemost importance that those affected are taken into confidence. Such decisions cannot be taken alone as due consideration must be given to the others viewpoint.
  
  However if there are choices /decisions that primarily affect your life the most important factor would be..Does it make you happy? does it take you a step further to your goal/destination? does it improve your present circumstances?
  
  I think what works well for us because of our Indian culture are 2 questions that my dad told me to ask myself before any important decision.
  1 Will my doing it embarass my parents?
  2 Will it be something I will have to hide from my children?
  If the answer is YES to any one of the above question, then you should stop right there. After seeing the world and most of its cultures i would say these test questions would work almost anywhere in the educated world.
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  A comment on Conversation: Neil Pasricha: What do you do to make your life awesome? Extended until 2016*

  May 4 2011: Make a difference in someone's life, add a smile, wipe a tear, make someone feel special, make that day special for someone.....there are a million ways to spread the smiles around....its a small step that begins to make the world a happier place to be in...and you can always begin today, now.
  I think when i have made that difference in another person's life i would consider that day awesome for me.

• A reply on Conversation: Is a woman's existance confined only to her home, her being a wife, a mother? What is the right time for her to live out her dreams?

  May 3 2011: Hi Debra,
  I think you have understood my point straight on. We women are brought up ih a culture where in tending to you home, family, husband and children is first priority. There is no denying that even if we were given a choice our instinct and maternal feelings would countinue to guide us through the same decisions.
  However Salim and Nicholas feel that it is a probably a forced tradition of sorts...what i am seeking to debate that because a woman chooses to give priority to these things first at the initial stage of her life (Which inturn promote the well being of her husband and kids) should she be "Expected" to continue with the same always, throughout her life.
  Nicholas You might be a great father but giving birth and breast feeding a child isnt something that a man can do. There are men in today's society who do chip in on bringing up childern but they are far and few.
  Salim, the world outside is changing fast and if one has been out of touch from work it will take a while to get accustomed or aquainted with changes that have happened. Unfortunately wether it is at the workplace or at home...it is given to believe that they would rather train a novice than give a stay at home mom a n opportunity to return to work.
  Many a times the kids turn around and say"What would you know" as if one was dealing with someone that was totally incompetant. It is this attitude that causes disillusionment, when a woman's capabilities are questioned even before giving her a fair chance.
  The fact is that in most cultures, the husband can leave home without the stress of whats happening with the kids or whats cooked or clothes washed and literally come and put his feet on the table clicking tv channels to unwind.....do you think women would ever do that.
  
  Im sorry but as a woman i have really felt the heat on this as many of my friends...

• A comment on Conversation: Should you be a friend to your child? Is it okay cite your own fault as an example to teach the child? Should you follow the rules u impose?

  May 2 2011: When i said be friendly but not a friend to your child there is definately a time frame involved. Once past the teenage years and on the brink of adulthood i think being a friend would reduce the communication gap. I for one learnt what football was and who were the world players and their positions on the field after i realised that if i could not discuss the game with my growing son there would soon be no topic that would be fun to bond over .
  However being a friend also allows from back slapping terms and misbehaviour which one indulges as casual between same aged friends. What might seem fun by yourselves will not be seen in the same light when probably you have your friends over or your boss over. It would be incorrect then to admonish the child for saying, "Do it yourself mom, move your body get some excercize" or something of the sort. But its not what you will want to hear infront of outsiders.
  There is a code of conduct which says respect has to be shown to elders, you can diasagree with your parents but you cannot shout at them. I think that demarkation is very important.

• A comment on Conversation: Is a woman's existance confined only to her home, her being a wife, a mother? What is the right time for her to live out her dreams?

  May 2 2011: Undoubtedly like most would agree a woman would have to take time off from her work/job to raise children. But along with other values, systems, outlook, behaviour that we women inculcate into our children is not the mental growth a priority. My father often used to tell me to ask myself everyday before retireing to bed..."How have i added something of value to my life, mentally, emotionally or physically" Either you should have gained the wealth of knowledge by reading or practical performence OR helped another in the form of contributing to their happiness, well being, growth OR taken upon yourself to accomplish a physical task or growth..more so incase of atheletes. The enhancement has to substantial for your growth as a human, for you purpose of life.
  I do find that it becomes increasingly difficult to accomplish this little task that my father taught us...not because i dont want to but because of restraints beyond my control. Isnt this growth invaluable for each of us to be able to contribute to the society at any optimum level, to be able to better ourselves everyday...

• A reply on Conversation: What can we do, as citizens to promote tolerance in our daily lives ?

  May 2 2011: Bullies sense fear just like animals do. Fear in the body odour, fera in the eyes, in the tremble of your hands, a quickened pace.
  I am not talking about dealing with murderers here or the ordeal of getting mugged but the bullying that one faces in school, college or workplace. Confidence is a detterent as is indifference. This is not to be confused with audacity or challenging a situation.
  Have you seen a stream of ants walking towards their goal...put in a detterent they either cross over it or go around it...their speed remaining constant. You can put 2 or 3 or even 10 objects in their path.....their stance does not chnage. In todays society and world we have to teach our childern to be like that to survive if they not built to give a physical stay away appearance.
  This does work most of the time...simply because the enjoyment of the reaction is missed by the bully.

• A reply on Conversation: What can we do, as citizens to promote tolerance in our daily lives ?

  Apr 30 2011: Kids are at a stage where patience is a rare commodity. patience is promoted when team work is delegated. I am an actor and i have seen that the film industry does work with the highest level of tolerance right from fact that the film making business has people from all racial backgrounds working, eating spending time together. For a single scence to attain perfection people from all depts have to be in perect sink and harmony. I would therefore like to put forward acting worshops that we have developed that instill teamwork. It attests the fact that winning is possible only with perfect co ordination of the entire team.
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  A comment on Conversation: What can we do, as citizens to promote tolerance in our daily lives ?

  Apr 30 2011: Tolerance is when one learns to accept that no two people can have the same view towards life, things, people or situations. It is a degree higher than patience because we are not merely awaiting our turn, or our time or turning a deaf ear or blind eye to situations.
  Tolerance is accepting anothers view, abiding by the law live and let live. We have to teach ourselves, empower ourself to understand that no two people can be clones in thought or behaviour. Experiances, Circumstances, situations, upbringing, values, education, culture all these aspects play a great and vital part in shaping each indvidual personality and developement.
  If one has the courage of conviction i fully support standing for the underdog in any situation as long as one doesnt cower away midway leaving the person even more vulnerable and ridiculed than before. If you are not convinced about the cause you can never fight for it with strength. You have to believe that you are doing the right thing. It is the right of freedom that is bestowed upon us and with that comes the responsibility of making the right choice.