Stefan Turcanu

Odense C, Denmark

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Stefan Turcanu
Posted over 3 years ago
What do you think each and every one of us can do to counter the impact and influence of porn as default sex education, everywhere?
So I guess it comes down to what can we do as parents, though I am not one at the moment - but I have given a thought to what will I say to my child and how will I tackle the issue of sex and love. I see a solution in creating a more transparent awareness in schools, even workplaces - for parents, institutions and of course people's homes! Being aware of what you are actually doing and experimenting leads to better control of yourself and the ones around you if they are following the model. Kids are extremely easy to be influenced. We love them, we buy them iPhones and the rest is history. The kid is happy, I am happy that he is happy. End of story. I think this is not the end of the story but the beginning. One could restrict hardcore porn sites but creating a parental lock on the handheld device itself or the computer or any other media device. And openly, try, to discuss with their child or children what is the difference between sex and love - thus the difference between the porn world and the real world. Great initiative with your website. I wish you best in making it score no.1 when google-ing for the word porn :)
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Stefan Turcanu
Posted over 3 years ago
What do you think each and every one of us can do to counter the impact and influence of porn as default sex education, everywhere?
Good question. I am 23 years old and yet I feel that today talking about sex and STDs is a taboo as it used to be in the early 80's. As most of us I had followed courses related to sex during secondary school and high school. Most of the people laugh during those course, especially when the "banana moment" comes along. Though I have started my sex life quite early, 14 - and yes I am not afraid or ashamed to discuss this, I have been "lucky enough" to grasp hold of it. Not to get into undesired and uncomfortable situations such as having children or contacting STDs. The issue revolves around a great number of factors which make it exist in the first place. From lack of parenting skills when comes down to talk about sex to porn sites which have also mobile versions. In my case my dad never actually discussed openly about sex with me and somewhere deep inside of me I always wished he did. From my point of view this issue has to be addressed to parents as they have "control" over their offspring's, not porn producers. Leaving aside religious beliefs all of us, 7 billion, live in a world filled with guns, wars, violence and of course hardcore porn. You can still be a good Christian even if you discuss the downsides of violent porn with your kids. In fact one of God commandments is to love your neighbor. In this case the neighbor is your child. If you, as a parent, fail to do so and love some other neighbor by respecting and NOT killing him (as it happens frequently nowadays) that means you have covered partially the commandment. I am not a religious person at all but I do believe in a greater power, in something which rules us all in biological harmony - The Universe, God, Allah, Buddha and so on. I am mentioning this as most people of this planet are religious. Therefore it is a way in the inner sphere of this "parallel world". Sex is everywhere. It is being sold better than bagels or hot dogs. And people like that. In fact they don't even realize that they do it.
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Stefan Turcanu
Posted over 4 years ago
Neil Pasricha: The 3 A's of awesome
First things first - speeches like this one might and will help someone! I am one of the lucky ones which have actually got something positive out of it. And for that I have to THANK YOU NEIL! The past two years of my life have basically flown out the window. Filled with numbness and the will to just go on, for the sake of going on. Luckily the numbness went away, as in Neil's case, when my loved one big banged my universe with the classical line "I don't love you anymore, I met someone else". The birth of my new universe is not older than a month. :) Since then, I have been tormenting myself with the universal questions humans ask themselves "why?", "why now?", "why me?", "what did I do wrong?", "can I do something about it?". To get to the point - until today I have never asked myself the following question "do I REALLY want to do something about it?" Some may say no, some may say yes. I say both. And chose to get forward with my life. I value the 6 years I spent with her. Wonderful unique moments that surely I will never show up again. Period. I can and I will go forward because I'M JUST AS AWESOME AS ANYONE ELSE IS! And for all of those who are dealing common routine problems - get up and be awesome. It's just a matter of perspective.