vivienne sarobe

Independant therapist, communicator and consultant, Vivienne Sarobe, psychologist, Madrid, Spain
Madrid (Mad), Spain, Spain

About vivienne

Bio

Grew up between England, South Africa and Spain, with a little Swiss excursion. I´m a psychologist. I love my work and hope it will help make the world as great as it can be. Ted talks is amazing, it makes us think and, I believe, make an effort to make change happen where it should and preserve what is worth keeping.

Languages

English, French, Spanish

Areas of Expertise

general psychotherapy, all ages, families, groups, institutions

An idea worth spreading

This is the era of internet. Perhaps the planet has finally found a forum to become conscious of itself. This is one of the greatest moments of humanity, just like roman roads or printed books or the train. We are responsible to make good use of progress. One of the best uses we can make is to realize just how similar we all are, how we belong to our environment, just how humble we aught to be.As a psychologist I have great hope for our societies, as we are begining to realize just how creative humanity can be, just how similar we are in our joys and misery. I hope psychology can help us all have more empathy, better tools to create peace, better opportunity and awareness of our nature. Ted is a great forum of people who really do things to make it happen. I hope to join in .

I'm passionate about

life

Talk to me about

psychology, education, how great animals are, nature, echo anything, people who are living their dreams.

People don't know I'm good at

I´m afraid I am far to public about what I do, think and say . I have few secrets, especially if they are good news! perhaps I could say I´m good at making do with whatever is around.

My TED story

I discovered Ted a couple of years ago. I´t s just fantastic to see a place where active people are making a difference. Ideas are incredibly powerful. Whenever I need inspiration, I watch TED.

Comments & conversations

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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
A forth way for continuing human evolution
HEyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!not so fast!!!!!!!!!!!!Who says mental problems are worse in prosperous countries?, who says the world is worse off? Sorry, I don´t think so. I work in mental health. I really can´t agree that prosperity brings more mental health problems. Industrialization - a change in society- brings more stress from allienating life stlyles and from learning new skills- like the terrible twoos when we learn to speak or living on a desert island for 3 days- , and that translates into mental problems when there are vulnerabilities. But if we watch evolution in society, we see that we create structures to live better after some time - takes generations, sorry, very nasty- but it does happen. It can also go the other way round, some societies are wiped out by their belief systems, other societies or catastrophes. People with mental or other health issues have always had a harder time to reproduce , except perhaps for narcisists and some sociopaths!. I´m surprized at our fantastic capability to survive and grow out of mental illness, given time and means, and both these resources are provided for better in countries that are advanced in technology, organization and money. It´s amazing to see how health prone we all are. Much of what we consider mental illness today is hopefully going to pass as we will create structures- for instance, 8 h working days instead of Victorian 12 h days- and attitudes - possitive thinking, commitment to the truth, etc- to adjust. Genetic problems such as psychosis and schitzofrenia are and allways will be there. There seems to be a constant percentage of these cases in most populations.... I really liked Pinker´s talk where he talks about how much we have improved. I´m sure we will change biologically. I´m sure the use of our computers will affect certain areas of our brains. There will be good and bad consequences, we will lose certain faculties and gain others. If we can get to choos some, it might be nice.
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
If raising children is one of the most important things we do in society, shouldn't the subject be directly taught in schools?
Karen, I believe you hit the nail on the head!!! I´m a mom, have been a teacher and am a therapist. To think in a non linear way, I find group debates , T groups and therapy to be really supportive. When a group of people who are really involved in something and who have many different experiences and ages and cultural experiences and backgrounds get together to talk about something with respect, a creative experience happens. If we can add technical aid, courage to experiment and enough time, it really takes us places. This is one of them. I´m starting a support group for parents in Madrid, Spain. I hope this will be it´s spirit. I´d love to know if your support groups out there are working!
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
If raising children is one of the most important things we do in society, shouldn't the subject be directly taught in schools?
Sorry it´s taken me ages to repyl! All kids are deserving kids. I´m strongly for equal opportunity, but I´m weary of institutionalization. Perhaps the best presentation I´ve seen on this subject is Ken Robinson´s, the mind map one with all the pretty pictures. I do believe children should go to school to provide basic accademic skills that we all need but it´s time to look for individual tallent and group effort. I´m writning from Spain. School is 8 h!! I´m a strong believer in variety. Communities aught to offer alternative learning experiences - music, sport, dance, cooking, buissiness, hand crafts, agriculture, farming, etc- as well as personal experiences such as immersion in different cultural experiences, self knowledge, philosophical and ideological debating, building an interesting project... mentors! My only concern is: by putting our children in the hands of a large state intitution for long hours we put them in the hands of something that will always be obsolete,- it changes too slowly-, and too impersonal- many problems and tallents are not seen-. As a therapist I´ve seen that large human structures have to sacrifice mobility and speed of change and addaptation. We seriously need to rescue our children´s tallent to face the new world . I would suggest investing in our teachers. They are so important! Helping them grow, giving them resources, pride, support, experiences,respect, money!. I´d also like communities to become more active: if we have space to offer teaching, we can choose what we want. That´s the best thing of internet: you can choose. I´ve just decided to do yoga, I have several great teachers out there on youtube. I ´ll start and then join a local community but I´ll bring what I learned. Organizing debating societies, teen clubs, toddler groups with support from professionals....I´m for "cells", "clippers", ...they are autonomous and fast and can addapt faster and pay attention to detail. But I do appreciate what is being done now too
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
If raising children is one of the most important things we do in society, shouldn't the subject be directly taught in schools?
I hope life skills can be taught in communities far from accademic evaluation and I really hope there are more and more communities, just like this one. Learning from different sources is essential to preseve free thinking. I also think children should not do a full eight day school programme, it leaves little time to do anything else. I imagine that´s why we want schools to teach these things, when and where else? What would be really fabulous would be to have a great emotional education support system for any collectivity dealing with important issues- including schools, hospitals, etc-:open support groups that can help people not get burnt out, implement great ideas, be creative..... It´s not a dream, it actually happens. Lets hope it becomes more common. I do think educations must go through a tremendous change to fit new times, however, I´d try not to overload schools. It might be healthier to keep schools teaching official curriculums and emotional support groups working out emotional issues. Schools should inform, however, emotional workouts must be done in a very protected environment where a person´s public reputation is not being evaluated.
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
How do we overcome the tendency to slip back into the old routine of life - and truly capture and ACT on the lessons in talks like this?
I have found the same thing happen, over and over again to me and patients and institutions. In my experience, we have to make a tremendous effort to change. Everything in our lives is so connected. As I see it, every part of our attitude, behaviour and expectations are part of a large net -our life style, our self-. When I have made succesfull change in my or my patient´s lives, we have had to go through a mourning process, untie the knots of the other connections as well as the one we are interested in, and endure the anxiety related with the void in the knot. This bit is sometimes rather horrible, but it does pass. It also requires faith in the process and in ourselves. Translated to normal every day life, if I quit smoking, it has a bio-psycho-social price. We have to work on every front, and it´s usually much more effective if we have a support group -others who are fighting the same battle or have done, others who know what it´s like to be in your shoes or who have perpective, who are innocent, and therefore still have common sense!- Thanks for bringing this up, it´s nice to read what everyone has to say
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
Dan Gilbert: The surprising science of happiness
But it´s not lying, it´s a defence to endure the hardnes of life. Sometimes the truth is to hard to bear. We are blinded by it, it hurts us. We can´t endure all the truth sometimes, so we have defences to help us settle with reality. If you are an optimist, you would say it leaves you time to find what you want later, if you are pesimistic, it might mean that you conform and lose. I choose both.
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vivienne sarobe
Posted about 4 years ago
What Makes Us Happy?
Being happy seems to be related to deciding to be happy and having the chance to be what you are. A great balance between too much and too little stress seems to do the trick. Feeling you are ok, you aprove of yourself and you can excercise your body, soal and mind so they are fit. That´s what my patients have taught me, and my friends