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  • A reply on Conversation: why do not our calendars have dates for man ?

    Apr 5 2011: Hi Katja,

    Thank you for your information about Men's World Day. I didn't know that Men's World Day existed, and now I'm glad that I've read all about it on Wikipedia.

    The role of Men's World Day is to criticize males:
    "...understanding that "the testosterone influenced brain of men" is the main reason for men's violent nature"
    and
    "...that Men's World Day not be conceived as a day to celebrate men but rather a day of introspection and self-criticism."

    A remainder that being a male, we are evil.

    This is essentially what it means to be male. Be strong. Don't show emotion. Any emotion you show will be either dismissed or ridiculed. Carry the world. You are the problem. It's your fault your mother doesn't make more money. It's your fault that your wife is stressed out. You don't work hard enough. All you ever do is work. You are the reason everything is wrong in the world. Don't complain about it! You are lucky!! You are a male. You are lucky, we are going to criticize you for it and every turn, and you can't do a damn thing about it because you are a MALE, and you just have to take it.

    Women around me make plenty more money than I do. I see women getting promoted in front of me because they are women. I see women getting preferential treatment in stores, restaurants, government agencies. I get absolutely zero sympathy; because I'm a male.

    I pay more than my female counterparts on a date. I buy things for her when we go shopping. I spend more money on rent. I've actually been told that "this is my duty" as a male - to pay more.

    "Men get a higher salary." --> "Men pay more taxes and pay more for living expenses."
    "Men move up in a company faster." --> "Men have to shoulder more responsibility." (ie more stress)
    "Men are allowed to pursue their careers while women stay at home" --> "Men don't get to see their children growing up."

    It's hard being a female. It's also hard being a male.

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