Nik Allday

Managing Director, Sente Limited

About Nik

Bio

Grew up. Went to too many schools. Went to pop festivals. Drank too much. Went to Art College. Made films. Played Drums. Had emotional traumas. Was unemployed. Went to Computing College. Got job. Made redundant. Got married. Had wonderful child. Got divorced (more emotional trauma). Am now in debt, unemployed, single male parent. Next - make hundreds of thousands of pounds and change the world.

Languages

English

Areas of Expertise

software

An idea worth spreading

Give up seeing what isn't there and start appreciating what is.

I'm passionate about

Emotional health. Parenting. Global happiness. Creativity.

Talk to me about

Science, technology, emotions, spirituality, children, parenting, creativity, making money.

People don't know I'm good at

Solving problems. Dealing with imposible situations. Caring passionately about other people.

Favorite talks

Comments & conversations

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Nik Allday
Posted about 2 years ago
Depression is an Illness!
One of the problems with a discussion about depression is it is like a discussion about love. We all know what it means but once you start trying to define it as if it were a 'thing' out there in the universe and we are the 'observers' you lose it completely. Depression is not an illness - any more than, for example, God is love. Depression is the human response to unsatisfactory and unresolvable circumstances. In my experience that is always as the result of contradictory behaviour by other humans. In simple terms the solution to depression is not to cause it in the first place. Once someone is depressed the only thing one can do is support, appreciate, value and love them. They are quite capable of getting through it themselves with the right support.
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Nik Allday
Posted about 2 years ago
Thomas Insel: Toward a new understanding of mental illness
Oh dear. He started his talk with the word 'So'. Thomas clearly has a mental health problem. But perhaps that is not the right 'term' for his 'condition'. Perhaps it is a behavioural problem. Or maybe crooked thinking is an intellectual 'syndrome'. However it is described he has the conceptual model so wrong it is worrying. There is enough research and facts available today to illustrate that the 'diseases' he refers to are not arbitrary happenings as if randomly imposed from without by a 'benign' God with a morbid sense of humour. It is clear that a significant number of heart attacks, for example, are sourced in lifestyle. People's hearts vary and it may be possible to detect differences in structure which put people with an inappropriate lifestyle at higher risk but one major component of the problem is the wrong lifestyle. If people have reduced activity and the wrong diet a higher proportion suffer heart attacks. Most of the 'mental illnesses' that Thomas is talking about are a result of a toxic emotional culture. How simple is it to observe that if you bully someone they get depressed. I am sure there are some brain arrangements that may be more prone to depression when bullied but I truly believe Thomas Insel is doing the mental health issue a disservice by taking the perspective he presents. Unfortunately this is building the perspective that some humans are 'weak' or 'faulty' and really nice wise hard working men like him can 'help' these poor individuals. But the reality is that humanity is the way it is and if we are living in such a warped culture that 25% of us are deemed to have 'mental health' problems the question is not what is wrong with their brains but rather what is wrong with our culture. To put it succinctly Thomas is putting the horse before the cart (or more accurately the cart after the horse).
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Nik Allday
Posted almost 7 years ago
Ian Dunbar: Dog-friendly dog training
Unbelievable! This is a totally "MUST WATCH" talk. Social skills? Charisma? Entertainment? NO! Ian Dunbar is not the archetypal good after dinner speaker. But what he has to say is a requirement for evolving into the future. He is talking about pets but he is talking about us too. Can we get his message? Can we get it that we have to learn to talk the language of the listener? If you want to communicate you MUST talk their language. I am so enthusiastic about Ian's talk because he is trying to tell us that we simply must learn to communicate as opposed to trying to impose our will on other people or other animals. He is sadly so right that we abuse animals and we seriously abuse our children. None of us want to do it and he is pointing the way to changing the cultural paradigm so that we can move forward with positive and creative mechanisms. I want to say more and I will try to on Toxic Drums but we must stop the "STICK" in the "Carrot and Stick" metaphor. Just watch this and then judge. I think it is far far better than it seems.