Jan 30 2013: I'd also like to briefly say that there is absolutely nothing wrong as parents, damn even teachers, forcing children in wise ways. Obviously the issue is with unwise parents/teachers/etc forcing unwise things. Now THAT is bad. So if you go to the ROOT in order to change the problem you'd have to start with wise parents and wise teachers. And since wise people are more and more hard to come by its a hard to solve.
But force done by well-meaning wise people, parents etc only serves the children immensely.
In others words force can be used to the good of others or bad. At the end of the day it's about us adults working on ourselves and trying to create a good balance in what we do for our kids.
Jan 30 2013: From first hand experience children need structure. And not just a bit here and there they need congruent and consistent structure. It's vital. But keep one thing in mind each structure provided by parents will be unique to that family and in some cases that particular culture (although the world is fast growing multicultural thus culture memes are quickly disappearing, not such a bad thing IMO).
It's clear from the comments that the talker provides a military type structure which is FINE, probably better than most. But the form structure comes in doesn't really matter as much as the fact that its provided!!
In this day and age it's hard to get congruent structure. By that I mean (assuming the family is even together as a unit as apposed to divorced, single parenthood, etc) each member if the family follows a similar philosophy. That would be a congruent structure for a child to see growing up. It will benefit them in many ways mostly IMO by giving them clarity on who they are ie strong sense of charactor and will teach them how to live (thoughts, behaviours, actions, aspirations, etc).
This is not easy to find in this day and age because it seems family's are either not together or on completely different pages with each-other which will create imbalance, confusion and no clear sense of self plus lots more.
It's all made even harder in this day and age since we live in a time where society has a huge pull for conformity which wouldn't be so bad if the memes that currently rule the world, the ones most people follow whether they know it or not, were leading some place worthwhile because sadly they are not. So to prevent our kids from joining the heard they need a decent sized family following a similar philosophy. And that's just the starting point lol. Parenting is not easy, and raising happy, smart, wise, driven, healthy children IMO is the hardest thing in the world to do. And I've been through some serious shit which pales in comparison.
Apr 22 2012: Older people GENERALLY are happier becuase they have got to know life and how best to live it. Its as simple as that. And younger can speed that process up by reading the right stuff and by going through a lot of stuff first hand.
Nov 30 2011: learning starts before they are even in utero. It starts with how the parents lived and what they did to improve themselves. You abuse your own life and have a child that child will carry the consequences even if for the 9 months in utero you decided to do everything right.
also, its a positive talk for those to be mothers to help them get things right, but depressing for anyone who had a less than smart mother during pregnancy given all the apparent negative results.
I know that my son had an awful mother in all aspects including in utero but i dont believe his screwed becuase it, his been with me sinse 3 (now 6) and has a good life. Time will tell.
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But force done by well-meaning wise people, parents etc only serves the children immensely.
In others words force can be used to the good of others or bad. At the end of the day it's about us adults working on ourselves and trying to create a good balance in what we do for our kids.
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It's clear from the comments that the talker provides a military type structure which is FINE, probably better than most. But the form structure comes in doesn't really matter as much as the fact that its provided!!
In this day and age it's hard to get congruent structure. By that I mean (assuming the family is even together as a unit as apposed to divorced, single parenthood, etc) each member if the family follows a similar philosophy. That would be a congruent structure for a child to see growing up. It will benefit them in many ways mostly IMO by giving them clarity on who they are ie strong sense of charactor and will teach them how to live (thoughts, behaviours, actions, aspirations, etc).
This is not easy to find in this day and age because it seems family's are either not together or on completely different pages with each-other which will create imbalance, confusion and no clear sense of self plus lots more.
It's all made even harder in this day and age since we live in a time where society has a huge pull for conformity which wouldn't be so bad if the memes that currently rule the world, the ones most people follow whether they know it or not, were leading some place worthwhile because sadly they are not. So to prevent our kids from joining the heard they need a decent sized family following a similar philosophy. And that's just the starting point lol. Parenting is not easy, and raising happy, smart, wise, driven, healthy children IMO is the hardest thing in the world to do. And I've been through some serious shit which pales in comparison.
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also, its a positive talk for those to be mothers to help them get things right, but depressing for anyone who had a less than smart mother during pregnancy given all the apparent negative results.
I know that my son had an awful mother in all aspects including in utero but i dont believe his screwed becuase it, his been with me sinse 3 (now 6) and has a good life. Time will tell.
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