Danger Lampost Posted 16 days ago Yann Dall'Aglio: Love -- you're doing it wrong I was looking for inspiration and came away disappointed because Yann defines love as the desire to be desired. I think he's got it wrong. That is just one particular kind of un-evolved love, and I hope that I aspire to a much larger version of love. The word 'love' has so many different meanings and nuances, and those meanings vary by language and culture as well. So it's hard for me to criticize Yann's point of view, especially since I'm not presenting an alternative here. However I will leave you with my own saying about love, I made up in 1981: "The ideal lovers could leave each other on any day. They choose to be with each other every day."