Ray Richards

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Ray Richards
Posted over 3 years ago
Which innovative projects with a social impact inspire you the most?
We provide them with three do's a week - three seemingly insignificant tasks that are different, that gradually ease them out of their comfort zone. Things like 'Walk a different way to work' , 'Talk to a neighbour you've never talked to before', 'Ask a teenager for advice' - They enjoy doing the tasks, they get something back, something different. The do's become increasingly challenging and in the latter stages of the programme are tailored to their individual behavioural repertoire e.g. if they are not an assertive person we challenge them to try out being more assertive. Eventually breaking habits becomes easy because the autopilot switch is off. Hope this helps
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Ray Richards
Posted over 3 years ago
Which innovative projects with a social impact inspire you the most?
'Do Something Different' is all about behaviour change. It inspired me enough to get fully involved. Our goal is to get people (in companies and in communities) to do something different rather than think something different because doing can change the world but thinking can't. We help people move away from auto-pilot. It's also lots of fun! - www.dsd.me for more info Good luck with your quest Ray
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Ray Richards
Posted over 4 years ago
What was the most amazing social experience you had and why?
I was travelling the Far East with my brother and a friend about twenty years ago. At a waterfall in Bali we met a local guy a few years younger than us who invited us to stay in his village for the night. We went and were followed everywhere we went by most of the village children. We seemed to be introduced to anyone who was of importance but our host was the only person who spoke (broken) English so we struggled to work out where we were going and who we were meeting. Everyone was extremely friendly and could not do enough for us. Later we were asked for money to buy food by our host. They were not a wealthy village so this seemed OK. The village was Muslim (a minority in Bali) and it was our first taste of being woken up at night for prayers. As as a result it was all very different and without doubt one of my best experiences whilst travelling. In the morning our host took us north to our next port of call. We were just about to say thank you by way of a few Rupiah when he asked for money. We were very upset to be asked for money and explained this to him. We also explained that we were just about to offer him a 'thank you'. He seemed upset to be told this. We gave him the Rupiah anyway and parted company. Twenty years later I'm still not sure what to make of this experience and whether or not we were right to feel aggrieved at being asked for money. Am I glad we took the decision to stay in a village in the middle of nowhere with strangers? Absolutely! Would I want my kids to make the same decision? Probably
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Ray Richards
Posted almost 5 years ago
Derek Sivers: Keep your goals to yourself
This has really got me thinking. I've definitely been in the 'share and you'll place pressure on yourself to achieve' camp BUT the bit about sharing and getting the kick from doing so seems to make a lot of sense. I wonder if the energy / frustration that builds up from not sharing is put to good use i.e. used to achieve? I also wonder how I'm gonna achieve my goals without sharing them as I need the help of other people to achieve them i.e. building a conscious business