Jun 7 2012: First off, make sure your desire to help people is not coming from a place of ego. There are a lot of shit gurus out there who may be offering pieces of good advice as well as a lot of bunk and it's hard to know which are the gems and which to discard at a young age. If you really want to help people, it seems to me that you have to have a lot of knowledge about human nature as well as a long history of life experiences.
When I look back at the stuff I believed when I was in my 20s and 30s, I am relieved I didn't publish or go out and speak publicly because as I got older, I realized a lot of it was idealistic as opposed to realistic.
Also, I notice that people in the public eye "get stuck" in their own raps and fail to evolve as people. Oprah, Chopra, Dyer are still peddling the same crap they've always been and most of it is nothing more than "feel good" new age bs that doesn't actually offer anything concrete that helps people to better their lives overall. Tell people what they want to hear and the money will follow but at the end of the day, nothing's really changed except the numbers in your bank account.
I'm waiting until I'm older to go public--if I go public at all. I'm currently 47. I'd suggest learning about psychology and philosophy if you want to help the masses and to wait until you are much older before you start telling other people how to live. Also, try to objectively observe what other people are doing and what does and doesn't work as well as discern whether or not they are lying about their happiness, achievements, methods for living, etc. Most people are simply rationalizing and make huge compromises in their lives and then try to tell you why you should too. They also fail to take into account opportunities they had or simple strokes of luck that contributed to their successes.
You say you're lost and scared so I suggest you keep looking and don't settle for any "answers" that don't feel 100% right. Be 100% honest w/yourself at all times
Jun 7 2012: Getting married was by far my biggest regret and roadblock in life. I often wonder what my life would have been like if I didn't get married at 23 and divorced at 30. My life is not bad but I think it could have been much better if I did not marry.
Jun 7 2012: Learning to write--and I don't mean creative or technical writing. Learning how to transfer my thoughts into the written word was the biggest life changer for me!
Learning about psychology (helps to understand people and why they do what they do).
Learning about philosophy (helps to understand what understanding is and ponder "the big questions" with the greatest thinkers in history).
Learning to play the guitar.
Learning which methods of relaxation help me to relax and unwind.
Also Fonkou, I received an award for "asking questions" in third grade. I feel the same way as you do about asking questions. And apparently, do did Socrates!
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When I look back at the stuff I believed when I was in my 20s and 30s, I am relieved I didn't publish or go out and speak publicly because as I got older, I realized a lot of it was idealistic as opposed to realistic.
Also, I notice that people in the public eye "get stuck" in their own raps and fail to evolve as people. Oprah, Chopra, Dyer are still peddling the same crap they've always been and most of it is nothing more than "feel good" new age bs that doesn't actually offer anything concrete that helps people to better their lives overall. Tell people what they want to hear and the money will follow but at the end of the day, nothing's really changed except the numbers in your bank account.
I'm waiting until I'm older to go public--if I go public at all. I'm currently 47. I'd suggest learning about psychology and philosophy if you want to help the masses and to wait until you are much older before you start telling other people how to live. Also, try to objectively observe what other people are doing and what does and doesn't work as well as discern whether or not they are lying about their happiness, achievements, methods for living, etc. Most people are simply rationalizing and make huge compromises in their lives and then try to tell you why you should too. They also fail to take into account opportunities they had or simple strokes of luck that contributed to their successes.
You say you're lost and scared so I suggest you keep looking and don't settle for any "answers" that don't feel 100% right. Be 100% honest w/yourself at all times
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Learning about psychology (helps to understand people and why they do what they do).
Learning about philosophy (helps to understand what understanding is and ponder "the big questions" with the greatest thinkers in history).
Learning to play the guitar.
Learning which methods of relaxation help me to relax and unwind.
Also Fonkou, I received an award for "asking questions" in third grade. I feel the same way as you do about asking questions. And apparently, do did Socrates!