Mar 13 2011: I already did street art, but I didn't sign it then and won't discuss it under my name now. There is an idea that I had the first time I saw Face2Face on the Wall.
When I was a student, I taught math to inmates. We were not allowed to wonder what they were in for, but personality and sentences were often give-aways. The student I taught the longest (and with the least math skills) was in for “15 if not 20 years” which is exceptionally long for a lenient country like mine—almost exclusively extremely violent offenders. The guy was a sloth, beaten by life more than anyone else, and that was in an institution where half of the answers to my questions were “to prevent us from committing sucide” and the other half “so that we stay locked in here for good.” Based on the attitude of the other inmates, and what he told of his family visits, I had to assume that he had been a child molester. A teacher of mine was framed for that years earlier, and he had the same attitude, beaten-to-bovine-stare.
If I had the courage, the connexion and the political gusto, I would ask his photo, and those of his peers, probably their head buried in their arms, crushed by remorse, to be pasted on the outside Women shelters. They need reminders that the perpetrator suffers far more than they ever will.
If you think this is too much, consider that every Palestinian has had half of his family blown away, and they welcomed Isreali portaits (and vice versa).
What about reciprocity? I'm not sure having photo of battered women won't drop jail mood into an even deeper level, neither would staring eyes, and smiling women is probably the worst: forests remain the best idea.
Mar 13 2011: Yes, feminists, parents with alternative views on educations, extreme-right and extreme left, religious extremists including some who have had violent actions—since I'm 15.
I've learned every time, every day, with one notable exception: most feminists, and all regular readers of Vogue-type magazines. Minutes in the conversation, they would deny the sky is blue if I had said so. The detail of those conversation was hurtful to me, and still haunts me, but the most striking was how fast I would be judged and cast away. It costed me several relations, job opportunities.
By contrast, people who would kill for (race) purity tend to be respectful of my choice to be a mongrel. They would feel queasy about the idea, but have been confronted to enough contradiction to accept it for what it is. I cannot say that feminists are used to admit “I understand that we disagree, and I might be wrong. What are your points?”
Mar 13 2011: When trying to find a word for “that”, be it “gifted,” “good,” or even nxlcskjalnriaautn, you are assuming that some children are intrinsically more capable than others. Ken refuses to use “gifted” and all other synonymous not because he wants to change the word, but because he denies differences are fundamental, intrinsic, or more then observation bias.
You are assuming, explicitly, that there are “'learning enabled' individuals”; he disagrees, vigorously, with that assumption.
Mar 13 2011: Could you go out, and ask the first homeless person that you come across (a man 98% of the time) what he has done with his “100% of everything”?
Your comment had the same moral integrity as Fox News when they kept saying how rich teacher are in the US; you can even try to show it, like Samantha Bee did recently:
http://www.thedailyshow.com/watch/thu-march-10-2011/crisis-in-dairyland---apocalypse-cow
You are using gender to pool together people that have nothing in common. I use a simple rule: I replace the name of any category by “Jews”, and the result is a quote from Mein Kampf, then the original quote is hate speech.
To tell the truth, I don't really care, because you are the main victim of your hatred, not me, but my advise is for you to change your mind before its too late. In the meantime, I'll keep this URL and quote your answer when I’m asked “Why do you think feminists hate men?”
Dec 13 2010: “Because, you know, sexism is about women being mistreated, and only that — no piggy, filthy, rapist, hateful, lazy, clueless, war-mongering men have ever being insulted, or judged as a whole gender by anyone. Ever.”
Dec 13 2010: You might want to rephrase that second sentence in a more open, acceptable and curious manner — like: “How was this talk sexist? What did I miss?” as if you exuded the positive, female values that the talk actually encourages.
Dec 13 2010: > her charity *benefits* the young men,
Which makes her the first feminist who fights against the discriminations that men face. It'd be even better if she could realize that and state it open, but I have doubts that her gender-based view of society makes it easy. Even better: she could actually decide that men, anti-mysandry militants in particular, can decide for themselves if that is a major discrimination or if she is missing the big picture.
I know some feminists in the 60s that would have considered it condescending to see men fight for their rights without asked women first if this was relevant to them.
Dec 13 2010: She shouldn't have to mention men who do not fight as a side note: all are fighting to protect an ideal, values, their family; some use weapons, others flee. Unless I missed something, their gender should be irrelevant.
Dec 13 2010: So we should start by promoting men as child educators, and challenge all the women in the room to trust their husband with their children. The deep-rooted sexist prejudice against men, the constant doubt of their ability to handle that, in spite of all the evidence is the last stronghold of hatred — and I'd love to ask every participant whether, when coming to the conference, they trusted their men, or their pushed them a little further down, reinforced stereotypes in the eyes of their children and hired a (female) nanny.
If I were you, I'd be very careful with “it's not sexist: it's statistics”. When I use that to explain how to breakdown wage inequalities, it never ends well. You are much better off rephrasing your explanations in a way that doesn't need “my best friend is black” arguments.
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When I was a student, I taught math to inmates. We were not allowed to wonder what they were in for, but personality and sentences were often give-aways. The student I taught the longest (and with the least math skills) was in for “15 if not 20 years” which is exceptionally long for a lenient country like mine—almost exclusively extremely violent offenders. The guy was a sloth, beaten by life more than anyone else, and that was in an institution where half of the answers to my questions were “to prevent us from committing sucide” and the other half “so that we stay locked in here for good.” Based on the attitude of the other inmates, and what he told of his family visits, I had to assume that he had been a child molester. A teacher of mine was framed for that years earlier, and he had the same attitude, beaten-to-bovine-stare.
If I had the courage, the connexion and the political gusto, I would ask his photo, and those of his peers, probably their head buried in their arms, crushed by remorse, to be pasted on the outside Women shelters. They need reminders that the perpetrator suffers far more than they ever will.
If you think this is too much, consider that every Palestinian has had half of his family blown away, and they welcomed Isreali portaits (and vice versa).
What about reciprocity? I'm not sure having photo of battered women won't drop jail mood into an even deeper level, neither would staring eyes, and smiling women is probably the worst: forests remain the best idea.
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I've learned every time, every day, with one notable exception: most feminists, and all regular readers of Vogue-type magazines. Minutes in the conversation, they would deny the sky is blue if I had said so. The detail of those conversation was hurtful to me, and still haunts me, but the most striking was how fast I would be judged and cast away. It costed me several relations, job opportunities.
By contrast, people who would kill for (race) purity tend to be respectful of my choice to be a mongrel. They would feel queasy about the idea, but have been confronted to enough contradiction to accept it for what it is. I cannot say that feminists are used to admit “I understand that we disagree, and I might be wrong. What are your points?”
A comment on Conversation: If 'gifted' is a bad word, what term can we use to describe the highly intelligent and creative members of our societies?
You are assuming, explicitly, that there are “'learning enabled' individuals”; he disagrees, vigorously, with that assumption.
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Your comment had the same moral integrity as Fox News when they kept saying how rich teacher are in the US; you can even try to show it, like Samantha Bee did recently:
http://www.thedailyshow.com/watch/thu-march-10-2011/crisis-in-dairyland---apocalypse-cow
You are using gender to pool together people that have nothing in common. I use a simple rule: I replace the name of any category by “Jews”, and the result is a quote from Mein Kampf, then the original quote is hate speech.
To tell the truth, I don't really care, because you are the main victim of your hatred, not me, but my advise is for you to change your mind before its too late. In the meantime, I'll keep this URL and quote your answer when I’m asked “Why do you think feminists hate men?”
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Which makes her the first feminist who fights against the discriminations that men face. It'd be even better if she could realize that and state it open, but I have doubts that her gender-based view of society makes it easy. Even better: she could actually decide that men, anti-mysandry militants in particular, can decide for themselves if that is a major discrimination or if she is missing the big picture.
I know some feminists in the 60s that would have considered it condescending to see men fight for their rights without asked women first if this was relevant to them.
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A reply on Talk: Zainab Salbi: Women, wartime and the dream of peace
If I were you, I'd be very careful with “it's not sexist: it's statistics”. When I use that to explain how to breakdown wage inequalities, it never ends well. You are much better off rephrasing your explanations in a way that doesn't need “my best friend is black” arguments.