Darrell Borza Posted over 4 years ago Can we make public elementary schools more boy friendly? Does gaming offer a creative way to do that? I raised four sons, now I have five grand daughters - culture shock. My boys grew up in the woods, playing in creeks, lakes and immersed in nature. But give them video games and they are locked in. My daughter had little interest. Boys cannot ' sit still ' as school commands. Able to observe boys and girls, the girls are into anything that connects them, I-Pod, cell phones, DS. While the boys are seemingly more into that which allows them to escape into a world of fantasy, especially ones that they feel they are in control of. Perhaps the level of the control in a game is equal to the level of feeling controlled outside the game. My sons grew up in the time of feminism, being pounded by media of women being more essential in a family, marketing portraying men as boys in big bodies. Commercials that see them as idiots, that cannot do anything right without the guidance of women, from getting ketchup out of a bottle to the stereo-typing add the sees the wife walk into pure chaos of the kitchen and baby while she was gone. They see sitcoms where women degrade, even slap men, while knowing full well this is forbidden by men. My son ( 25 ) said '' feminism seems to be the demand for unbridled actions without the inconvenience of consequence or accountability. '' As I looked at violent video games, there was the key element, unbridled action and no accountability for it. I raised children in a traditional scenario, a stay at home Dad, and a single parent. There could be no ' right or wrong ' there could only be what worked in my days then, regardless of what was expected of me, or my sons. I am 59 and play video games too. I find them a great distraction when things are chaotic, re-centering somehow. I don't analyze it, it just works.