Joanne Kenny

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Joanne Kenny
Posted over 1 year ago
Do yout think that marriage is forever?
I guess it depends on what you mean by "forever"?? ....if you mean *eternal* then No i don't think it will be forever in that sense.....but if you mean "forever" in the romantic sense for as long as we're here on earth...then YES i believe the blueprint meant for it to be that way.
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Joanne Kenny
Posted over 1 year ago
Can you control who you can fall in love with?
Yes you can absolutely control who you fall in love with...after the inital *attraction* (i think this is a better word to use rather than *instinct*) to someone there is a stage where you come down from your *high*...this is the time scale you should use to "rationalize"....ie: is this person right for me? is he offering me what i want from a relationship? (first you must know what you want....if you don't know already it would suggest you are not ready for a relationship)...does he treat me with respect, how does he treat his own family? as women we must use the information wisely that we gather, as this enables us to make wise *choices* .as in whether this is someone we can be in a healthy relationship with. As women we are to *select* our partner wisely...we have control over who we look twice at, who we allow close and how close, or whether to reject them as *not right for me* There are different ways to describe "love" first theres the *feeling* of being in love which is the inital "attraction" you feel when a certain someone takes your eye....which can lead onto the second...love is an *action*.....this comes after the inital attraction (normally)......you begin to spend time with the one you're attracted to, and find you both have lots in common, they treat (action) you in a nice/kind way... with outward signs of affection/ respect/patience etc...i guess this makes the way for you to begin to *fall in love* with someone...this may answer your query about "arranged marriages".....they may go into these marriages without the *inital* attraction, but find that through time...through mutal respect (acts of goodness) etc love begins to grow and attraction can spring forth. To love someone is an *act* of your will, no-one can force you to love anybody....it is born out of spending time with someone where you have found attraction, things in common and mutal respect. Lust is to desire someone sexually, but normally ends after the act.