Joseph Thomas Posted 12 months ago how to be a good listener? Zero acceptance and denial, that is for all situations. When we listen , we gotta llisten completely. It should be simply - absolute beautiful listening !, you should be so alive,completetly alert. Once listening is done then it's your time to speak, there you can accept or deny it. After all words are the means used by the author to translate his experience. This translation is already so limited. So let us always judge after the listening is done. Zero acceptance and denial is till the point where the speaker stops speaking.