Jan Coleman-Balch Posted about 1 year ago Why do we embrace mediocrity in relationships? Because we are either so perfection bound or sex is the only value of relationships. Personally, I think the relationship of marriage is complex and hard to define. It has little to do with mediocrity, and more to do with the inability to truly understand each other. That is where the work begins...we must try to 'think' like the other and become one with him/her. It makes it a very interesting adventure if each of the partners are willing to work at that aspect and then walk in that path to 'serve' each other. I have found that communication and the an openness to learn what the needs and desires of your partner is what turns a mediocre marriage into an exciting and vital love affair that will last a lifetime. It's the communication that is the hard part. Often we are too wrapped up in ourselves to really listen and understand.