Nicholas Tarsitano

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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted almost 2 years ago
Are women taught to hate themselves?
I wouldn't say that this is an issue of society as much as an issue of society mimicking human nature. One basic aspect of human nature and the nature of every species is to find a mate. In humans males and females have totally separate ways of being attractive. For men what makes them most attractive is to be a provider. Those men that where the best hunters would be more attractive to women than unsuccessful hunters because they could better guarantee an steady supply of food. For women on the other hand physical beauty is most attractive. Women who are young (roughly 18 to 20) and large hips, little acne and for the most part large breasts where all considered to be the most attractive because these are signs of good health, good genes and good child bearing qualities. Those that did not meet those qualities where not high quality mates. This same thing happens today and has negative affects on personal self worth. This can be seen in women when they do not meet beauty standards and in men when they are unsuccessful in their careers. Therefore this is not a problem with society but with society mimicking human nature.
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Is gender natural or cultural?
No I do not equate matriarchy to egalitarian, I also disagree that commonness is separate from this. If the majority of human cultures are patriarchal and those that are not (such as the Mosuo) split work among the genders in the same way as patriarchal cultures (women doing housework while men care for livestock) then does that not show that gender (behavior and roles each sex performs) is in fact biologically based?
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Is gender natural or cultural?
Then may I ask why has the same gender roles have appeared almost universally in human culture. While we do have several egalitarian communities the rest and fairly sure most are patriarchal and I know of none that are matriarchal. So surely there is some sort of basis or common factor all humans share to cause this tendency.
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Is gender natural or cultural?
Well more accurately gender is more than one physical difference, there are differences in genetics, body chemistry and body structure. What I am asking is does it also affect psychology or is this all just made up.
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Jackson Katz: Violence against women—it's a men's issue
I am still unsure how much gender has to do with these crimes, statistics do range on many of these issues making it difficult to take a proper stance. I also disagree somewhat that gender is only a social construct, nearly every primate species exhibits clear gender roles as does almost every sexual animal despite many having nothing we would consider culture or society. However in other crimes regardless of gender ratios we do not say things like "men can stop theft" or "women can stop child abuse". Only in rape and domestic violence do we specifically target men as the ones that need to be taught it's wrong and need to be taught to stop but as I have asked before does that not unfairly label men as rapists and abusers and by ignoring female perpetrators do we not excuse if not condone their behavior?
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Jackson Katz: Violence against women—it's a men's issue
Todd though probably unintentional I find your belief that men need to be controlled very misandric. While I agree that men tend to be more aggressive why should we restrict and demonize parts of what make men well men. With women we encourage them to be who they are and not to let people change them but here you suggest the exact opposite. We cannot demonize men for the way we evolved and men should be able to follow their own path as well, either to be the macho man or the sensitive one. We can make it against the law to be violent but we cannot use it to chain men like animals.
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Nicholas Tarsitano
Posted about 2 years ago
Jackson Katz: Violence against women—it's a men's issue
I just wonder rape and domestic violence are the only crimes we seem to purposefully associate a gender to the criminal but does that not unintentionally blame all men or label them as abusers and rapists? In no other crime do we do this so why here? And does it condone female abusers and rapists as we almost entirely ignore them? I mean they don't get nearly this attention.