Gertrude van Voorden

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Gertrude van Voorden
Posted almost 2 years ago
Alexander Tsiaras: Conception to birth -- visualized
If all those who commented had really let the video/talk sink in, would awe not have been foremost in the mind. With that would killing another, making war not seem utterly ridiculous, a tremendous waste of investment. The embryo has no gender, possibly not even a colour that would show its race, let alone a mind that knows its religion. We are brilliant architecture. And another sciencefield regards it as impossible that there are not many planets where life is happening. How logical it would be that there are much more advanced civillisations and possibly also much more evil. Which person has not felt as if there was a certain plan in one's life, repeating certain patterns as if to learn something or to get something right. The need to prove one is right by one's own religious affiliation is outmoded and contraroductive, it does not benefit the majority but serves the gain of a minority. It is equality that makes a people thrive and where would we be, without different people persuing different paths/studies etc. Can the professor exist without a carmechanic or a bricklayer? And if evolution, or creation per chance was true, then where is it happening now? Or are the same buildingblocks of chemicals no longer present? Sumerian tablets, archeology often prove the truth of many sacred texts.Yet the whole picture eludes us But is every step of discovery by a brilliant goodwilling mind, not simply fantastic. Can a realizing of all that went into our own makings, make us better human beings, more respectful of life. Could we stop fighting about religions and start applying them as manuals of how to form cohesive, functional societies, to support all participants thrive? Or is fighting, oppressing, domineering essential to our human development? Is their wisdom in this? If so, what is the benefit of destroying others, other people, whole cultures?
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Gertrude van Voorden
Posted almost 2 years ago
Alexander Tsiaras: Conception to birth -- visualized
This man presents his scienceperspective of what conception, gestation and birth is like. I have seen it in pictures before and was glad to be aware of it, from the days of my first pregnancy. And even my own unwanted birth, somehow transforms in an absolute miracle, when it goes sort of right as far as the physical body goes. A functional adult, however, needs to be explained by other disciplines like neuroscience. Explaining how a baby uses half of the brain of the mother to survive. Alan Shore. How the comments can turn into a religious debate, instead of a feeling of awe and joy, that science has come this far, to understand this process and to show it in pictures, only shows how childish manyeople still are, fitting everything in their own narrow referencecadre. Abortion is not always selfish, nor adoption a good alternative. Many tv programms show how strong the ties are between a child and the biological mother when meeting eachother after having been adopted, decades of separation. As a humanity we are living with many sacred texts, in which much is falsified to benefit some rulers plans and convenience. We found the ageold city of Krishna, over 30.000 years old at the bottom of an ocean. Much of what is called God, is simply history traced back and researched, often by science. Did we wonder before where the Anaszazi disappeared to, now, scientists have the technology to research ratpoop and found that they turned their environment into an inhabitable desert and just had to leave. Which still leaves a miraculous saving possible. In the Quran it is said, that most sacred knowledge is beyond the human capacity of understanding. It is also said that good comes from God and all bad things are coming from the actions of men him/herself. The Kahuna/Hawaii speak of times before sin, when there were no diseases/illnesses. Some yogi's are capable of miraculous feats, a normal person is incapable of and science claims is impossible.
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Gertrude van Voorden
Posted about 2 years ago
Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability
I love it when she says we are imperfect and wired for struggle. We are human. We make mistakes and that should be ok. For ourselves and for those supposed to love us. To be enough, what a relief that would be. As it is, i was not. 2 of my sons put their ultimatums to me of how i should be, act, do etc. Living with complex PTSD is not easy. But when uneducated people think they can diagnose you, or tell you how to survive/live, it gets to be impossible. So i made the choice to be imperfect as a mother and said no to their ultimatums. And finally some tranquillity enters my life, slowly but certainly. No longer having to adapt, act as if, fake it till i make it. Good moments and bad moments, having their own value. Building resilience, knowing i can handle both of these qualities of the human states. And yes it is sad, that families collaps in these times. And i still hope that someday my family will heal again. But i am no longer prepared to be only allowed to be part of it, if i lie and dissociate and am anything but myself.
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Gertrude van Voorden
Posted about 2 years ago
Jackson Katz: Violence against women—it's a men's issue
Whether women now abuse as much as men do is not a valid arguement, when men in general are so much stronger then women. Overhere we had Robert M. Molesting close to 100 children, the youngest 19 days old. After that their was a tv programm showing that in childcare there are also women molesting children. Most men have now left the workarea of childcare. Jackson arguement of needing more leadership sounds too much like hierarchical authority. A leader you are mostly for others. And i believe we have had more then enough of that. Women and men, both need to be empowered and much more educated in how to maintain healthy functional relationship. A subject necessary to be taught in school, much more important then mathematics etc. I was abused as a child by my father on a regular basis, always threatening, and occasionally by my mother, who was always unlucky to cause real harm, wounds etc. My father tried to murder me when i was 12, when he was in a raging fit. Then, thinking i was now adult and could form a healthy relationship, my long ago ex husband, abused me, beating me and the foetus in my pregnant body to a pulp, then tearing the dress of my body, then leaving me out of the shere shame of it all. Now some 40 years later, i still do not understand the mechanics of it all. I understand the power of the subconscious mind (Bruce Lipton) and take responsibility for having created these kind of abusive relationships over and over again. Having 3 sons i could never afford to hate men. Now, after 2 sons, put an ultimatum to me to be normal, act as they want me to act, which is impossible with complex PTSD, and should never belong in any relationshiip anyway, i retreated from these men in my life. And finally after all the grief and sadness, i am finding some tranquillity and am coming home to my coreself. My lifelong dissociation now not so obvious or possibly even healing. There are simply no people close enough,, to necessitate me to dissociate, to stay safe.