Ronney Kendall

Phoenix, AZ, United States

About Ronney

Bio

My name is Ronney and I am parent of 3 children. Eldest is a son, 26, ... next a daughter 25, (they are moved out of the house), and my youngest who is 17 and has Aspergers, which is the main reason I found Ted. Somehow, it just started showing up on my facbook and i saw the Temple Grandin speech. She is amazing. i saw her on TV before for like 5 minutes so I clicked on the link right away, and there it was.

My son went from a very large, non-understanding community and school in Mesa, AZ to where he is now. A small charter school that focuses on the kids individual talents and help them exceed. Now about this old school and community where we used to live. This community where we used to live is Deeply religious (Mormon to be exact, I don't have anything against Mormons but I am sure you are wondering what religion it was, so i just thought i would throw it out there.) So this Mormon community we lived in. When my son was younger, he would go out to try to make friends, the kids would go inside. They were not allowed to play with my son because we were not in a 'Ward' (the Mormon church) . So he retreated into only being social on the computer. Which we were okay with. Still are. He is brilliant actually.

When I was going to IEP (individual Education Plan) meetings at this old religious type school. It was like walking into the death chamber. They kept saying "Your son has a "very extensive vocabulary' i just said "i know' and they kept repeating it... Like they wanted me to change it. I didn't know what to say. I got real bad anxiety over it. I would be ostracized at every word... it was horrible!

Now comes the time when we lose everything... My husband lost his job, we lost our house, all our toys... (boat, quad, rv... etc...) I had to sell off all my vintage furniture that I LOVED. Not to mention much of my scrapbooking supplies, etc, and in the end, it was all futile because we still lost the house. Turns out that it was probably the best thing that could have happened to our family.

We had to move to Phoenix with my husbands mother for 5 months, We switched Jonnys school to this smaller one, and he changed. He had a real phobia and anxiety issue about going to school. I got a well paying job but was starting to become ill at this time (more about this later) and then my husband got a job not long after, and we were able to afford a small apartment by then. We knew we had to stay in this area because we could not take Jonny out of the school he was in. So we moved out into a small apartment not far from where his mother was.

I was becoming increasingly ill... with Vertigo, violent vomiting, head aches, completely went deaf in my left ear... I lost my well-paying job, but fortunately my husband still has his job. I finally, after much much testing, i had a condition (and still have it) Meniere's disease. I had a left side Labrynthectomy (basically i had the balance system removed from the left side) I have been well ever since, have a job I love etc...

My husband and i are coming up on our 20th Wedding Anniversary and are Celebrating HUGE with an Elvis vow renewal haha... it is going to be great (this is in May)

So that is me! Who are you?

An idea worth spreading

Seek first to understand, then be understood.

I believe there are so many religions in the world that only ONE cannot be right.

My dogs

Scrapbooking and Cardmaking

i am sure more stuff will come to me later...

I'm passionate about

feeding the homeless. literally, I work downtown and i see homeless hungry people, so i pack sack lunches and pass them out. My family, my hair:), learning

People don't know I'm good at

Thinking, i sometimes have really good ideas.

My TED story

Son with Aspergers. i have meniere's disease. i adopted out a son and we are recently back in touch. thanks facebook! Parent of an anencephaly baby. i am an orphan. I live with Fibromyalgia, and not suffer from it. Attitude is everything! Spread love and positivity. Don't hate anyone, no matter how much they want you to. Feed people, you don't have to give that guy on the corner money, but you could give him something to eat. Take an extra lunch with you one day to work, just to give away. Forgive, its the best thing you can do for yourself.

Comments & conversations

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Posted over 1 year ago
Has facebook status replaced true friendships?
I agree, and that is what I have wondered. I guess this is a way for me to "clean house" and know who my real friends are. Another reason I am getting rid of facebook. Actually I will not delete my account because I have become reacquainted with jr high/high school friends, so i want to keep that line open as there are still a few friends I hope to find some day. Plus it will keep me up to date as to when my favorite bands are coming to town, and other events. however, overall, i will be mostly inactive on it so to speak. And, Kate, I can totally relate. I put my foot in my mouth so much my breath smells like leather! haha
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Posted over 1 year ago
Has facebook status replaced true friendships?
OH! i totally agree. It is awesome for party planning, event planning, etc... So I can keep everyone up to date on the goings on (that is why I'm going to be on there until the end of May) however... I have slowly been deleting people off my friends list, that I pretty much continue to speak with every day, or at least quite a lot in real life. And, they got hurt when I deleted them off my FB, even though I speak to them quite often in person, on the phone, email, etc... They KNOW my plan and yet they still got mad at me for deleting them. I just don't understand. This makes me sad. i want friendships that are heart to heart. Soul to soul... NOT keyboard to keyboard... But i totally get what your saying about the convenience of it. And i am not downing facebook at all. I love that I have found some people who i really miss alot. Like friends from jr high/high school, etc... Super happy about that, but now that we are reconnected we can talk on the phone, text, whatever. Does this make sense? would you ever tell someone to delete the post off THEIR page? This particular post was to legalize the use of hemp in paper products. Just saying... Thanks for your input. i look forward to hearing what others have to say also. But i feel that NO ONE has the right to tell me what to put on MY page, and what not to put. That is lame i think. btw, my husband did apologize. Probably cuz I told him i was going to defriend him, or he could defriend me if he didn't like it haha
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Posted over 1 year ago
Would you change your destiny if you could?
I don't know my destiny, however, I am not one to control it either. I wouldn't change anything that has happened previously, so I don't imagine i want to change anything that has happened in my future. I do not know what my destiny is and i may never know, and i am okay with that Ronney
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Posted over 1 year ago
Do people deserve to know the truth, even if it isn't in their best interest?
If I am going to say something, it is going to be based on fact because my memory sucks and I can't remember what I lied about. I am honest to a fault... My friend wanted me to go wedding dress shopping with her, because i am so honest. and I was.. but there are times that the truth can be said without saying the truth, and then no one has to have hurt feelings. For instance something small would be 'how does this dress look' if i honestly did not like the dress i would say 'i don't have to wear it, do you feel confident? do you feel good in the dress?" If she said 'yes' i would say 'then the dress looks great on you' (because it would be her confidence coming through in the dress. However, if she said 'no' i would then ask 'well, then, why are you wearing it?' that is just something simple. but i think you get my point. that is all. Ronney
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Posted over 1 year ago
Which "should" (or would) you take : - The Red pill (reality and the truth) / sadness or - The blue pill (illusion and lies) / happiness
This is interesting... Today I woke up thinking... "today i will have no expectations" i went through the day quite happy. when i was at work, i lost a document, nothing catastrophic, but because i had no expectations of keeping it, i just began again. it was quite a happy day for me. So I would definitely take the happy pill, most people think I am on one generally anyhow. just like i realize my shift key is giving out lol... ronney
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Posted over 1 year ago
How does talent influence you and your choices in life?
Yes, I cannot sing, so i don't:) - simple answer... I think we all have talents and something to contribute to the world. But "talent" is subjective... My opinion of music today = not much talent. They have machines that sing, and they just keep playing parts of music from older songs and looping them into never ending sounds. So, I know people think that there are some talented musicians out there today, I believe so too, however, those are not the songs we hear on the radio. I do art. Other people do what they consider art, but I don't see it. That doesn't mean they aren't talented, it just means I don't understand or get what they are doing, just like I am sure they don't see what I do as "art" (I draw what looks like fractals is the best way to explain it) I also scrapbook, make cards, and other various paper crafts. I admire people who can work with their hands, like building houses, and I think that takes talent, or fixing a car, that takes another kind of talent. If I know I am not good at something after i keep trying, i realize, I just don't have the talent for it (like painting pictures, i am horrible at it) I move on, that is just not what I am good at. i don't keep trying, not because I have failed, but because I succeed at something else:) And that is my view on talent... Ronney K. Phoenix, AZ
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Posted over 1 year ago
Marriage is ....... ?
I love this! Me and my husband are coming up on 20 years of marriage, we both recently turned 43 so we kind of "grew up together" We KNOW what "good times and bad" are, and we did survive. We KNOW what "richer and poorer" is, because we were homeless (not anymore and we are good, and we appreciate everything we have now including this old lap top where the shift key rarely works for the word i lol see).. 'sickness and health' - i became very sick, and there he was... i am thankful. And if he were sick, i will be there. "forsaking all others' this too... long story, but in a sense. We do have trust, and we have commitment. We are renewing our vows for our 20th anniversary because we have a better understanding of their meaning now. And we can certainly say, I DO all over again. So I guess my answer to this question is "Marriage is....' FANTASTICALLY OVERRATED!!!! :) Ronney
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Posted over 1 year ago
Is the gut the key to disease?
oh! and one other thing. Also when i was eating healthfully, my memory got better and it seemed I could figure things out more easily (that part is hard to explain). I just felt more clear headed.