Amy Winn

Clementon, NJ, United States

About Amy

An idea worth spreading

Happiness is not about having what you want - it's about wanting what you have. An old saying, but still true. Another good oldey is treat others the way that you wish to be treated. These simple ideas can make your life better and bring joy to others.

I'm passionate about

I am a wife. I am a mom. I have compassion for others, and love dogs. I am passionate about things that are positive and happy. I know how short life is and we should not waste any of it.

Talk to me about

I love to talk about children. I am saddened by neglected children and wish that no child would feel lost or alone in this world. When people treat cars better than their kids, I get so offended.

People don't know I'm good at

I am good at analogies. Sometimes I use cartoons or fantasy to describe what I am feeling or tell a story. Using analogies also takes away the pain of the reality and gets my feelings out.

My TED story

I began to use TED after reading a question about making a hard decision. Joining in gave me answers and strength to make the very painful decision that I was faced with. I have many alone hours due to having illness that causes me to be indoors most of the time. The TED community is a very special place that exercises my mind and allows me to have "company" on otherwise lonely days. It has allowed me to find comfort with my own issues as well as feel proud to try and comfort others with theirs. Sharing experiences and information on TED reminds me of a book store only better. Because in a book store, while you can also choose your topics and gather information, you don't get to ask questions and get responses. Wonderful experience for all ages.

Comments & conversations

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Amy Winn
Posted 3 months ago
Announcement: TED Conversation hiatus begins June 10th
Thanks so much Fritzie! I do love the TED talks as well, but have never made any comments on them, as I always felt that they covered so much of the subject, so I just took it in. My son is hoping to be part of a TED talk soon on the issue of hearing impairment, He is presently doing research on dual cochlear implants on children and is hoping to spread the information on TED within a year. I do look for very specific conversations that kind of give me a gut feeling that something needs to be added or shared. And much like your comments, which I love, I hope to be positive with my words. Thanks you for all of your very nice comments that I have had the pleasure of reading. Best to you Fritzie, and I hope to see you soon.
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Amy Winn
Posted 3 months ago
Announcement: TED Conversation hiatus begins June 10th
Hi Aja, I'm sorry to that I will not have TED for a while, as it is usually good brain candy for me. I have always viewed this cite as somewhat of a bookstore, where you can pick the subjects that you want to read about, but then also have the bonus of asking questions or posting comments. However, I must agree that the cite needs a change. Specifically, from the time that I started posting, almost exactly one year ago, until now, the cite seems to have been slowly dominated by just a few followers. Is there a way to limit one followers comments, to perhaps 10 a week, or so. Because the comments that I read are basically old news, and same news from the same old people. I try very hard to embrace new faces and encourage them to continue, but they soon disappear. This leaves TED looking much like Facebook in that the people become more and more familiar and the conversation become more and more off base, as they refer to previous discussions with each other. So my suggestion would be to limit the comments, which is basically no different than limiting our characters, and keep the discussion on point as much as you can, I also think that the TED CRED system needs some revamping. I see many people with 50 pr more TED CREDS who use this web cite as nothing more than a constant companion to their day on the couch. They ramble and tell the same story time and time again and that should not be rewarded with any CREDS. I think that substance and direction in a comment response will bring more thumbs up, and that should be next to the names - how many thumbs up they have, as they are not building it with fluff, but the followers are with appreciation. It may also make people care about their fellow reader a bit more and their own need to ramble a bit less. So you may want to put in the guidelines that sometimes, it is just nice to read the posts, and if you have nothing new to add, than don't.
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Amy Winn
Posted 3 months ago
What are the most important lessons, thoughts, and points of wisdom you would like to share with the next generation?
Hi Robert. I took one more glance at dear old TED before he retires, and caught your question. You are certainly one of the most positive, respectable and gracious members whom I have had the pleasure of sharing thoughts with. So as we say farewell, I will answer your question with this......... Be Kind Give Freely Be compassionate Never give up - you are not inadequate Don’t Dwell Do your best Smile often Work hard Find Balance Make Time to relax your mind and body Don’t exaggerate Feel blessed if you have what you need Rejoice in things as they are Be able to reorganize the mess you made Don’t speak out of anger Stay present – while you are thinking about tomorrow, you will miss today Take responsibility for your own actions Do not cause harm Try new things Be truthful Be thankful Enjoy the little things Embrace change Do not wallow in self-pity Be nice to everyone Do not be jealous Show compassion Don't hold grudges Be true to who you are Learn more Embrace all possibilities Everything really does happen for a reason Keep your eyes, ears and heart open Live, Love and Laugh with all of your heart and Be the change you wish to see in the world. Be Well Robert
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Amy Winn
Posted 4 months ago
Racism in United States: Is it alive and well or is it not?
Hi Colleen, I did not see your response until today. It must have come through to Casey, as a response to his original comment. I figured you would know all about leveling. You are so in tune with human nature and all kinds of behavior. The guy driving me home called the driver in front of us one of "those idiots", and when I asked him "What idiots would those be?" He did not have an answer.Which means that he did not question his own perception, just like you said, or else he would have either given me an answer or never said that terrible comment. I am with you Colleen, calling people names is very much a form of leveling. Casey questioned why folks need to feel superior to others. I think part of the answer is because they feel so negative about themselves. When a person is in a bad place, they say negative things to others. I'm sure you've also heard the saying "Misery loves company". and that is another factor in racism. These people are not good and kind and warm and loving. They are angry and cold and hateful and if they spread that hate, they may gather a group of the same, which is how we end up with hate groups. One factor that may come into play with someone feeling superior to others is that they are a little out of touch with reality. This may come from a variety of things. One of them is power. A powerful position in a job, sports or politics can inflate someones head so much that you have to grease their ears to get them though a doorway. Another factor is parental enabling. When parents tell a child that they are perfect, and never call them on their bad behavior, they are not preparing that child for the real world, where others don't see them quite the same as their parents do. And lastly,I imagine that those who genuinely believe that they are better than others may be suffering from one of many personality or delusional disorders. In that case, there is professional help, but if they believe that they are perfect, they won't go.
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Posted 4 months ago
What is comfort? When does a person reach a state of utmost comfort physically, spiritually and psychologically?
Sinnest, I follow your thoughts and of course your examples are so true as they pertain to our bodies. And I see that you followed my thoughts as well that the level of spiritual comfort and peace that we have in our hearts helps to enjoy the physical happiness and comfort that we feel with our body and mind. If we are full of hate and anger, often times we may experience pain and discomfort such as a headache, heartburn and in a much more extreme level, even a heart attack. You point out they they are partial truths or half truths. Does this mean that without some of the mind and spiritual truths, we can't get to the full picture of what is making us feel comfortable? If so, that is such an insightful perspective. Lots of things have to fit together to create a true understanding of why we are or are happy or make us realize why we are unhappy. To some degree, I honestly believe that our inner peace can welcome more comfort,, while our anger can repel comfort. So, if two men are walking down the same path in the woods, the man with inner peace may not even notice the little twigs and pebbles that he is walking on and may stop and sit for a rest on a boulder that he comes across. His peace welcomes the comfort. The man walking the same path with a chip on his shoulder might complain about each one of those twigs and pebbles. And when he sees that boulder, it would never cross his mind that he could sit to take a rest, He just sees a rock. That example is where the comfort is in the mind of the beholder. There are many things that do not require emotional actions and thoughts to obtain comfort, exactly like the ones your mentioned. If you are hungry, of course the answer is eat. If you are thirsty the answer is to drink, Some things in life are just easier than others to figure out how we can use them to find comfort. Food and drink are the easy ones. And I think that how we look at things can make the others easier if we are at peace.
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Amy Winn
Posted 4 months ago
As a society why are we so disparaging of amateurs? Amateur musicians, artists, cooks etc.
Hi Ishani, Everyone at the top of the company started somewhere. I do not personally know of anyone who got in their Bentley and drove to their high rise office and performed their job as CEO of a fortune 500 company on the Monday following their High School graduation. This is not to say is has never been done, but I have never seen it. So, even those that do not admit it, started an an amateur. Even those singers or dancers who were discovered through their U Tube video or on a competition show, were very likely practicing day and night and singing karaoke at the corner coffee house for many years. So there is a wide definition of "amateur". To prove my point...At the age of 1 we were are amateur walkers, at 2, we are all amateur speakers and at the age of 4, we are all amateur writers. We need to carry that mindset with us, knowing that the first step may be a flop and the first words may sound silly, but we continued anyway. We need to teach out children that they should try lots of things to find what interests them and then cheer them on to follow that dream. I like your attitude of doing our best to eliminate any intimidation so that children can feel that anything is worth a shot. My mom has a saying....."The only job where you start at the top is a grave digger".
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Amy Winn
Posted 4 months ago
Racism in United States: Is it alive and well or is it not?
Hi Colleen, I was just an observer in this conversation, but then your comment grabbed my attention. Specifically your words.....why do some folks need to feel superior to others? Colleen, there is a behavior called leveling. It is when a person either brings another person down, or inflates their own sense of self worth in order to level the playing field of life. People that practice racism are rather proficient in this behavior. From the rich looking down on the poor, and the powerful looking down on the weak, and the pretty people looking down on the average joe, and of course one color feeling superior or better than another....you will hear them make very generalized comments which blanket the entire group that "offends" them, and then go on to explain why they are so great. I honestly believe that we are all guilty at least for a moment here and there feeling something towards another without knowing anything about the person. For example, my car was in the shop and my mechanic gave me a lift home yesterday. At an intersection he said "Why do those idiots get into the turn lane, and then go straight?" What idiots would those be?, I asked. No answer. So let me give you my answer to who those idiots are..."They are those folks you asked about that believe everyone should drive, speak, behave, style their hair, eat their sandwich and tie their shoes, exactly the way they do. Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely a difference between good behavior and bad behavior, but there are some that believe only their behavior is right and everyone else is wrong. And the longer they think this way, the more they genuinely believe it. Everyone starts to "bother" them, and just like you said, they end up closed up in a little box. That box is their world, and nobody else fits into it. The same goes for racists, they just do not believe that anyone else fits in their world, and the longer they feel that way, they too genuinely believe it. Be well.
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Posted 4 months ago
What is comfort? When does a person reach a state of utmost comfort physically, spiritually and psychologically?
Okay Greg, This will be my last comment with you before I turn my computer off for the holiday weekend. (1) Who exactly was I pointing accusing fingers at? Are we a little paranoid? (2) The Facebook comment was in response to your mentioning that we are crossing wires. I was never intending my initial comment to be directed to you alone, or I would have never made it. It just seems funny that wires were not crossed with any other members. (3) Your back and forth response is much like so many other conversations I have seen, which looks like Facebook. And I don't like Facebook. Facebook is a place where people are generally looking for something to do, friends to make, and join in on conversations that go nowhere, much like this one is going. (4) Yes, I have been ill and while being autoimmune keeps me from large public arenas, it never keeps me from getting off my ass and carrying my own weight in this world. I have two home business up and running beautifully. The first is a candy making business. (hey who can be sad around candy?) and the second is a fruit basket business - (just to balance the consumption of candy) I don't need to go any further on that issue, unless you would like to place an order. And lastly, and trust me... this is my last note to you Greg. I don't require an answer and will be leaving for the Jersey Shore in an hour - Have a great weekend everyone!!!!
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Amy Winn
Posted 4 months ago
What is comfort? When does a person reach a state of utmost comfort physically, spiritually and psychologically?
Greg, As a Jewish mother, let me begin my response with a great big OY! - Apparently nobody else had a problem understanding my post - I just see some thumbs up, which I love! So, lets go over this one last time..... Yes, Greg, if you don't take out the stinky, sticky, messy trash because your are "uncomfortable" doing that - unless you have a maid - your going to have a problem. Same goes with not getting out and going to work because it is not "comfortable". In the words of my grandmother - "tough cookies" The people that are "uncomfortable" doing things that they expect others to do are for the most part either takers, moochers or lazy bums. So my question to everyone is....are you too comfortable?