William Colony

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William Colony
Posted over 1 year ago
Attitudes; share some worthy ideas of how we can change them?
I must disagree. Simply a purpose or motive will not make you change. But your shear will, will. There are many hidden dispositions (unconsciously acted behaviors) working in the background. Even if you have a motive or an imagined or real purpose, without the willingness to break down your limits (unconsciously acted behaviors) you will not be able to change. For instance, many people have self-defeating behaviors. They can’t get ahead although they do have great ideas as motivations and purpose, but instead they keep falling back to their old “bad” habits. Without the willingness to understand yourself and the willingness to follow through, neither purpose nor motivation alone will get you to the desired outcome.
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William Colony
Posted over 1 year ago
Why do we feel unhappy and what can we do about that subject?
One of the most important key to happiness is the understanding of one self. What and why we behave in a certain way. Most of our behaviors are coming from our parents and immediate surroundings. These (unconsciously) learned traits are predisposing us for most of our unhappiness. We picked up these behaviors during our childhood. By having them so early they predetermine what other behaviors we will accumulate later on. The way they do this is that behaviors are like to be “used” and to be “approved of”. So when you have a certain demeanor than you will use it in a setting where it is usable and where it is approved of. When it is not approved then you will simply have a feeling that you are not welcomed, and when it is unusable than you will have a feeling of not fitting in. These feelings than ending up guiding you towards situations where your behaviors “feel good” about themselves. From your brain’s point of view it is easier to use a behavior than to change it. Hence if you picked up some not so great traits from your folks than it will be really hard to get rid of them and even realizing that they are bad in the first place. To regain (rediscover) happiness you must realize that almost 90% of the personality that you think as “this is me” just merely values and dispositions bestowed on you from the outside without your own conscious consent. When you come to this realization, than you are starting down the path to get to know your true self. The one who chooses his own values and chooses his own behaviors. And that is a big step towards being in balance within.
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William Colony
Posted over 1 year ago
Attitudes; share some worthy ideas of how we can change them?
The first and foremost would be to realize that change is needed. Than to understand, that change itself is an attitude that needs to be adopted. Everything changes and evolves. Once someone understands that, than he or she is on the right track. I found this great line in a book which highlights this. “We must acknowledge though, that understanding of life and ourselves might be an ever ongoing process leading us to our own future.” The book called: The Change Is Within You by G. Gyarmati. You can find it on amazon.
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William Colony
Posted over 1 year ago
Do right and wrong exist?
To answer the original question about feelings, is booth. A feeling can invoke thought and thought can invoke a feeling. However feelings are just chemical reactions to reinforce and alert an individual. In example when you hurt yourself your brain signals “you” to that what is going on right now is dangerous. When you feel good having intercourse your brain initiate the release of good feelings, reinforcing you (rewarding you) that what you are doing is good. Reproduction is one of the most important activities a living creature could do. To go further, if you observe yourself, isn’t it better to give than to receive a gift. It has been found by scientist that most people like it better when they give a gift or help someone than to receive. But why do we feel good when we give? Hypothetically, when our ancestors had to survive every single day, giving ensured cohesion and heightened the chance that when an individual needed help, food or needed a stone tip axe, than someone from the group will help him. So giving is reinforced with a stronger feeling of joy then the receiving one. When we evolved into conscious beings thoughts and accessing memory become possible. So merely thinking about getting hurt or having intercourse can initiate a feeling associated with it. Just as getting hurt and feeling the pain can bring up a memory about the last time you got hurt. This is a crucial part of our success as an animal. By doing this we can plan ahead and teach ourselves to be more careful and not to get hurt next time.
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William Colony
Posted over 1 year ago
A unified moral code
What is considered to be right or wrong is up to the current state of mind and culture of people. What was right 700 years ago is morally wrong these days. As culture evolves and people evolve so as their morals with them. To set up morals that work “forever” is impossible. Morals are the current interpretation of what is right and what is wrong in a given society. In example some animals might be ok to eat in some cultures in others they being treated as pets. Are they right or are they wrong? None, they are just different. At other times your accepted morals can go out the window in just a second. When you have to struggle for survival your way of looking at things is dramatically changing. You will do things that were unacceptable for you but now are necessary. When you say that morals can only be established through or with God, than you are right, because this view is an interpretation of those who believe a God. But for others who believe a different God or maybe even several other ones your interpretation will not work. To simply sum it up: an accepted moral code is a current interpretation of what is right and what is wrong by a given society. It changes over time and it can fluctuate even in short periods due to pressing conditions and may also differ based on religion, region, ethnicity etc.