Neil Fiore

President - Fiore Productivity
Berkeley, CA, United States

About Neil

Areas of Expertise

Optimal Productivity, Overcoming Procrastination, Workaholism, Time Management, Health Psychology, Health Habits, Coping with Cancer & it's Emotional Impact, Stress & Anxiety Management, Exam & Sports Performance, Life Coaching and Mentoring, Clinical Hypnosis, Ericksonian Hypnosis

Comments & conversations

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Neil Fiore
Posted over 2 years ago
Why do some of us think we are not worthy?
As a clinical psychologist I see too many people whose sense of worth has been lowered by shame. From my non-research, clinical perspective, shame is a "lowering/yielding/head down" mammal brain survival reaction to inescapable attack from the pack or society. Accepting one’s vulnerability is just acknowledging that “I am a mortal human and therefore vulnerable to loss, criticism from society, abandonment, death, and amazing feats of courage and joy.” It’s tremendously liberating to simply state: “So I’m not perfect. So What? I’m only human. But I’m still here and worthy of life.” There’s no shame in admitting our human vulnerability and imperfection. Quit the opposite. The awareness of our mammal brain lowering reaction awakens us to hold our human heads up high and say, “Yes, I’m human and imperfect. I give myself worthiness. What’s your point?” It’s the denial of humanness and the attempt to be perfect and invulnerable that causes us pain and shame. I’d like to speak up for letting go of trying to be perfect and invulnerable and to compassionate embracing our human imperfection. How liberating and courageous!
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Neil Fiore
Posted over 2 years ago
Brené Brown: Listening to shame
As a clinical psychologist I see too many people whose sense of worth has been lowered by shame. From my non-research, clinical perspective, shame is a "lowering/yielding/head down" mammal brain survival reaction to inescapable attack from the pack or society. Accepting one’s vulnerability is just acknowledging that “I am a mortal human and therefore vulnerable to loss, criticism from society, abandonment, death, and amazing feats of courage and joy.” It’s tremendously liberating to simply state: “So I’m not perfect. So What? I’m only human. But I’m still here and worthy of life.” There’s no shame in admitting our human vulnerability and imperfection. Quit the opposite. The awareness of our mammal brain lowering reaction awakens us to hold our human heads up high and say, “Yes, I’m human and imperfect. I give myself worthiness. What’s your point?” It’s the denial of humanness and the attempt to be perfect and invulnerable that causes us pain and shame. I’d like to speak up for letting go of trying to be perfect and invulnerable and to compassionate embracing our human imperfection. How liberating and courageous! www.neilfiore.com
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Neil Fiore
Posted over 2 years ago
Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability
As a clinical psychologist I see too many people whose sense of worth has been lowered by shame. From my non-research, clinical perspective, shame is a "lowering/yielding/head down" mammal brain survival reaction to inescapable attack from the pack or society. Accepting one’s vulnerability is just acknowledging that “I am a mortal human and therefore vulnerable to loss, criticism from society, abandonment, death, and amazing feats of courage and joy.” It’s tremendously liberating to simply state: “So I’m not perfect. So What? I’m only human. But I’m still here and worthy of life.” There’s no shame in admitting our human vulnerability and imperfection. Quit the opposite. The awareness of our mammal brain lowering reaction awakens us to hold our human heads up high and say, “Yes, I’m human and imperfect. I give myself worthiness. What’s your point?” It’s the denial of humanness and the attempt to be perfect and invulnerable that causes us pain and shame. I’d like to speak up for letting go of trying to be perfect and invulnerable and to compassionate embracing our human imperfection. How liberating and courageous! www.neilfiore.com