Jeff Fiske Posted 11 months ago Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20 I spent my 20's wandering the New England states and a few other East Coast USA states. By many standards I probably "mis-spent" my 20's and even part of my 30's. But I gained some invaluable life experience. As a widowed father of 2 (now teenage) boys I can see the wisdom in what Meg is saying. My experience in my 20's and dealing now with the struggles that I set up for myself when I was mis-spending my youth confirms, in my mind, what Meg is saying.