Louise French Posted over 1 year ago Tony Porter: A call to men As a woman I'll give my opinion:- * Doesn't cry or express emotion - one of my pet hates, cannot bond with a guy who doesn't express emotion. * Doesn't show weakness or fear. Has courage. - courage is totally different to not showing weakness or fear. Refuses to show weakness or fear - again cannot bond with someone like that, you cannot understand them or their motivations in life. Courage, is different - courage is being comfortable with being vulnerable. That is ok. * Demonstrates power/control. Makes decisions. Does not need help. - The last two are fine, the first is complicated. Yes it is attractive, but not in the way you think. Being powerful and in control is someone who is comfortable in their own skin regardless of what other people think, its not overpowering others (that's insecurity). * Shows agression/dominance - dominance is a turn off. Aggression, only in the right situations - threats to physical self etc, aggression (as in take control, rather than violence or dominance) is very attractive because feeling safe is attractive. * Is a protector - Is attractive, but we're talking physical protection here, not dominance 'ie you can't do that because its not safe' That's just controlling and a turn off. * Is heterosexual - well yea, but hating on other sexualities is a turn off as is constantly telling everyone who you'd sleep with (we know you're hetero, we don't need a running commentary). * Is strong, tough, athletic - can't say what I find attractive, its usually instant and more to do with body language than looks.