Carla Tonga

Auckland, New Zealand

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Understanding and Increasing Children's Self-Regulation, Single Parenting, SIlk Screening, maori art & design, Art & Design, Art & Architecture, Finding a strength in someone. Working to it, Finding Solutions, Toastmasters & speechcraft, Public Speaking - Communications

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I stumbled across Ted talk through Lumi Inkdye, Before that I didn't know you existed. It's exciting to find a place for discussion across an open floor and around the world ...

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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
How does arrogance compare with confidence?
The more a person stands up for themselves could also cause more grief. Situations can be sensitive. One person standing up for themselves alone could be seen as arrogance by the many, not an ideal situation for anyone to be in. Being the dog backed into the corner would not raise self esteem but probably just lower it and increase anger. ?
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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
How does arrogance compare with confidence?
1) The arrogent person will hear you say the apple is green, see the apple is green, but turn around and firmly tell you and everyone that the apple is red. The confident person will listen to you talk about the green apple, pick up the green apple, and explain to you and everyone else why they believe the apple is red. 2) It is not a question of the audience deciding wether the apple is green or red, it is up to the speaker to convince us. That is the beauty of personality and how the speaker can decidethe best way to send their message and portray themselves as either/ or. 3) I wouldn't try and humble anyone, who am I to judge. My friend once told me, there is not a truth but truths. There are many truths that cross our paths, and even though we are all talking about the same apple, your apple may be green, his apple may be red, but mine is red with a few flecks of green. Excuse the metaphorics, it's just what came to mind so I hope it makes sense :)
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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
What does happen to our comments on TED?
Yes I have :) If my comment can influence someone in a positive way, then I am pleased. I understand your point with 'copy & paste' because I did it myself. Not to copy n paste but only because it happened to be what I believed in too. There are so many ways you can say "I like chocolate because...'' but just because 10 students may feel the same way about chocolate, doesn't mean they're all just copying eachother. If I were in a meeting / discussion and someone made a comment, when 10 committee members agree with it would you want everyone to repeat the comment in a slightly different way knowing they are all saying the same thing, or would you accept it if they just said I Agree? I won't read it if it doen't interest me
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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
Does formal education as a child hinder a child's creativity?
I do agree that education provides structure to a child but not in the form of social interaction. Yes there should be a creative outlet at home, but If any creative outlet is to be instilled in a child sufficiently and effectively, it should be a collective task from all aspects of a childs life, home and school. If a child is drummed with authoritative rule and conformed behaviour 35+ hours per week, then you have the parent trying to invoke the childs personal expression and creativity, the relationship between school and home is immediately conflicting. Balance and communication is key is it not?
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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
Should we hear/read/learn about the failures of things; especially if it was "scandalous" and they become successful from hiding it?
Yes we should know about failures aside from the success. What steps did you take to recieve your success? what decisions were made that lead you to take that path? What does history show where past failings are still happening today? ... war, kaos and peace, trust and betrayal, it is all part of what makes us ... submissive information will only keep people in the dark. For people who may struggle with failure, just knowing that others can make the same bad choices may be more comforting than you think, to see that we are not alone on what ever it is you're doing. The true failure would be if we stopped trying because of it.
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Carla Tonga
Posted over 1 year ago
Does formal education as a child hinder a child's creativity?
'Formal education' could be defined as educating students or filling students with knowledge & basic facts . A 'students creativity' could be defined as invoked expression or freedom of expression from an individual. We can only begin to see the diferencebetween 'conformed education' & 'creativite expression' and factors that can drive a student either way are 1) A teachers ability to teach, communicate & invoke. 2) A students ability to learn. communicate & question. In my opinion & observation, schooling through to High School education is based around conforming to the national standard guidlines & a teachers personal perspective of behavioural control. These two points are the blocking agent to any students ability to grow creatively. i.e., The student has been the #1 art student of their year for 3 years in high school, they are submitting their final piece for the yearl. STUDENTt: I painted my niece in soft shades of blue because it reminds me of her & makes me feel happy. TEACHER: No that wont do, blue is a sad colour & you've ruined the whole portrait STUDENT': Why does blue have to be a sad? this is my portrait not anyone else's TEACHER: Because it just is. (teacher storms out of the room). -- After that conversation, I was graded so low, I was pushed down to the bottom of the class. All it took was one personal perspective of an authoritive figure. Another example is as an adult student in university, I noticed the struggle lecturers had trying to push personal opinion & artistic boundries with students straight from High School. Generally speaking you could almost say that Formal education is training our children how to think, how to act & how not to question authority. A teachers job is to teach and over all that is exactly what they do very well but the question is 'what are they teaching and how are they teaching it?