Dec 7 2012: First post I read and it hits the nail on the head. It's exactly what I was going to say! What usually happens with me is:
She: Hi-i ;)
Me: wow
She: I want to be the boss. (Because I am hotter than him, and he knows it).
Me: hmm-no (she's gorgeous, but that is not how I envision us, I want her to follow me).
She: Okay bye!
Me: wait come back!
She: Hi-i :)
Me: wow
She: I want to be the boss.
Me: well....-no
etc.
And it actually happens with women almost half my age...Who are way behind in life experience (and intelligence: 'Naples is in France right?'). I don't want to absolutely dominate in a relationship, but I certainly don't want to be in a relationship where the woman is dominant. I want her to 'follow me'. Men nowadays are trained to have high standards about attractiveness (I sometimes totally have an awesome relationship with a girl whom I just don't find attractive at all, and then it will not work) and get their ego skyrocketed when they are wanted by a beautiful woman, and woman are trained to use their beauty as bargaining tool to get dominance in a relationship. And I believe it's working against women too, because women need a strong counter part, I think a relationship will be problematic when the woman is dominant. The difference with older woman is they have been raised with: men should be dominant, pre-feminism. And maybe some women think to highly of themselves, and greatly underestimate men. The difference between Dutch (extremely dominant) and Turkish women (extremely submissive) is astounding as well.
Sep 19 2012: I used to be an anarchist, not voting. Then I discovered the Pirate Party which lets you participate using the internet. Lately I watched some Ron Paul clips and reverted back to the initial (libertarian) anarchist stance.
People will have to become organised in a non-autoritarian way, using the internet. Governments misinform the public and take away incentive to self-organize.
If I became president I would send everybody home and fire myself.
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She: Hi-i ;)
Me: wow
She: I want to be the boss. (Because I am hotter than him, and he knows it).
Me: hmm-no (she's gorgeous, but that is not how I envision us, I want her to follow me).
She: Okay bye!
Me: wait come back!
She: Hi-i :)
Me: wow
She: I want to be the boss.
Me: well....-no
etc.
And it actually happens with women almost half my age...Who are way behind in life experience (and intelligence: 'Naples is in France right?'). I don't want to absolutely dominate in a relationship, but I certainly don't want to be in a relationship where the woman is dominant. I want her to 'follow me'. Men nowadays are trained to have high standards about attractiveness (I sometimes totally have an awesome relationship with a girl whom I just don't find attractive at all, and then it will not work) and get their ego skyrocketed when they are wanted by a beautiful woman, and woman are trained to use their beauty as bargaining tool to get dominance in a relationship. And I believe it's working against women too, because women need a strong counter part, I think a relationship will be problematic when the woman is dominant. The difference with older woman is they have been raised with: men should be dominant, pre-feminism. And maybe some women think to highly of themselves, and greatly underestimate men. The difference between Dutch (extremely dominant) and Turkish women (extremely submissive) is astounding as well.
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People will have to become organised in a non-autoritarian way, using the internet. Governments misinform the public and take away incentive to self-organize.
If I became president I would send everybody home and fire myself.