Pabitra Mukhopadhyay Posted 2 days ago DO WE REALLY FALL IN LOVE WITH A REAL PERSON, OR WITH A "THING IN ITSELF" THAT WE WILL NEVER KNOW? Dear Colleen, I was referring to the popular meaning of romance in the context of relationship between individuals. It is true that romance is a broad idea and it applies to life in a more general way. So just because someone is single does not mean the person has no romance. The little experience that I have of life makes me believe that romantic love is overrated. This overrating creates over-expectations while having relationships. Life is a far larger canvas where we draw our ways into each others companionship in myriad colors of emotions - romantic love is just one color. I cannot imagine a painting in a single color. I have never seen my parents lovey dovey in my whole life. When my mother is angry with my father she addresses him as Mr. I find that so beautiful.