I am very proud to read about your achievements and success in getting on with your life . I am sill struggling and am wondering what I can do to get myself out of this situation . I have read Patricia Evans book and will look for the "Emotional Blackmail' . I am very thankful that the community around me is supportive as I do not have family with me in the United States. I am trying to fight the judicial system in allowing paternity rights since he has completed the parenting classes and the 52 weeks batterers program. However, he still exhibits signs that I am very wary of.
My children safety and security are paramount with me . I can only hope that I am making wise choices for them. Both the court and his attorney claims that I am controlling and rigid. However, I have learnt to trust my intuitions and to read situations.
The Majaree Mason Center in Fresno does wonderful work although I think a lot can be improved.
I thank you for your kind thoughts and pray that you will continue to fight to educate women about abusive relationship. I hope one day I will be able to do the same.
Feb 8 2013: Hi. .. I too , am a domestic violence victim and was with him for more than 10 years.It was daily verbal abuse , name callings that lead to threats and ended in physical violence. I finally eft 2.5 years ago and am still embroiled in court proceedings. You are right , the court makes me interact with the abuser because we have children and even though there is a restraining court order from both family and criminal court, I have to no choice but to deal with him... I am sometimes scared , sometimes brave , sometimes fearless but in most instances just lost in how to find my way out of this mess. Thank you for that frank talk, I have posted it to the marjaree mason center FB who helps woman and children get away from their abuser. God Bless You
-karen
Sep 15 2012: Before I die, I must ensure my children are wise beyond their years, that they love and honor without boundaries....and are respectful of the human life and all that it entails.....
Sep 15 2012: Exactly, when I mention Higgs Boson, everyone is like what are you talking about ? and I said, u know CERN ?? I have now grown two horns
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Sep 14 2012: Two years ago, I left my abusive husband. It was the most hardest thing I could ever do. Being brought up in a traditional home, divorce to me was not something I contemplated. But as he threw me and our son into the trash can, my life flashed by me and I suddenly saw that it was just a matter of time before I would end up dead . This was my wake up call, for where would my children be without me ? With that in mind, I made up my mind to leave after being tormented for 10 years.
My children propels me to do more each day, they inspire me to be the best, to fight for what is right and I know this to be true , that they saved my life . Everytime I feel weak and lonely and sad, they spur me on. I sometimes feel so weak, so lost and so misguided. I sometimes feel like such a coward, and then I look at them and realized that I need to be the role model here and I find my voice . I was timid and shy and now I try , I try hard to stand up for what is right because they look to me for guidance and I can't fail them.
Before I die, I want to be able to make sure that my children grow up strong , grow up wise and grow up knowing that they were my salvation . Then I can rest in peace knowing that I tried my best
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I am very proud to read about your achievements and success in getting on with your life . I am sill struggling and am wondering what I can do to get myself out of this situation . I have read Patricia Evans book and will look for the "Emotional Blackmail' . I am very thankful that the community around me is supportive as I do not have family with me in the United States. I am trying to fight the judicial system in allowing paternity rights since he has completed the parenting classes and the 52 weeks batterers program. However, he still exhibits signs that I am very wary of.
My children safety and security are paramount with me . I can only hope that I am making wise choices for them. Both the court and his attorney claims that I am controlling and rigid. However, I have learnt to trust my intuitions and to read situations.
The Majaree Mason Center in Fresno does wonderful work although I think a lot can be improved.
I thank you for your kind thoughts and pray that you will continue to fight to educate women about abusive relationship. I hope one day I will be able to do the same.
-karen
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I love illuminating conversation on politics, science, technology, religion, art ...not for the sake of having an argument but for learning purposes.
I love listening to people .... I want to know their ideas, their thoughts , their feelings... Being human is such a complex thing that I want to know how they function and what makes them think the way they do..
So Please... Help..... I am no Dork and I love a good movie and a good fiction... but when there is a need for deep discussion, please send me people who is interested and want to learn as much as I can :)
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My children propels me to do more each day, they inspire me to be the best, to fight for what is right and I know this to be true , that they saved my life . Everytime I feel weak and lonely and sad, they spur me on. I sometimes feel so weak, so lost and so misguided. I sometimes feel like such a coward, and then I look at them and realized that I need to be the role model here and I find my voice . I was timid and shy and now I try , I try hard to stand up for what is right because they look to me for guidance and I can't fail them.
Before I die, I want to be able to make sure that my children grow up strong , grow up wise and grow up knowing that they were my salvation . Then I can rest in peace knowing that I tried my best