kain ramsay

Life & Leadership Coach, Kain Ramsay Life Balance Coaching
Dunfermline, United Kingdom

About kain

Bio

Hi, my name is Kain Ramsay and I specialise in Transformational Life Balance Coaching, hosting and facilitating life changing and in Inspirational Live Speaking.

I am based just outside Edinburgh in Scotland and am passionate about change, self growth and about finding the real answers that make a difference in peoples lives.

With first hand knowledge of what it is to hit rock bottom and live a highly destructive and unbalanced life, I learned some simple yet highly effective steps that anyone can take to overcome many of the most common debilitating problems that we face in life.

Having joined the Army at a young age in 1996, I served for over 8 years around the world in military theatres such as Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Oman, Kenya and Iraq during the Gulf War of 2003. Upon leaving the forces I lived with anxiety and depression for 4 years in which time I made 3 failed attempts in taking my own life. I was diagnosed with PTSD in 2006 during a two month spell in hospital which followed on from the drink and drug addictions I had at the time.

My addiction problems led me to losing my job whilst living in New Zealand back in 2008, which in turn left me homeless, legally unemployable and without a dollar to my name.

It was at this point in 2008 where I made a committed decision to change. Since then I have learned how to not just radically transform my own quality of life, but the quality of life in others. Although Messing my life up wasn't planned, the process I took to get my life back on track was.

In 2008 I returned home to Scotland and entered back into full time study to learn the basics of psychology, philosophy and the social sciences before going on to study counselling, NLP and life coaching in depth.

My main reason for becoming a life coach has always been to provide practical and effective solutions for the most complex emotional problems that people will experience in life.

With an ability to understand the thoughts and feelings that hold people back in life, I use a unique mix of coaching principles to help people to not just feel better emotionally but also think bigger thoughts, dream bigger dreams and see that with hard work and some drive in life, anything is possible.

Languages

English

Areas of Expertise

Life & Leadership Coaching, Life & Consciousness Coach, Counselling & Mentoring, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Trance, Life Purpose Coaching, Personal Identity Coaching, Speaking - Motivational coaching training, Motivational Public Speaking

An idea worth spreading

Human beings are without a shadow of a doubt the greatest invention in the world, however, they often seem to be highly undervalued and unrecognised in their creative brilliance.

Through the duration of my life I have travelled the world with the fortune to experience a wide range of the differing global cultures, I have grown to recognise ONE universal trend:

And this trend is that BIG people, live BIGGER, bolder, more confident and effective lives.

BIG people lead, BIG people initiate, BIG people are more popular, they have wider social circles and generally live BIGGER and more exciting lives.

BIG people take greater risks, the achieve greater things, they think BIGGER thoughts and have greater hopes and dreams for life than what small people do. When people learn how to become BIGGER on the inside, BIGGER in their thinking, in their believing & in their overall being; the problems of the outside world become smaller and far more easily managed.

I'm passionate about

Teaching people how to live the most impacting lives possible by becoming able to clearly define who they are, then in turn find a significant purpose for living.

Universities

Fife College

Talk to me about

How to overcome the debilitating fears and emotions that prevent you from living the BIGGEST & most effective life imaginable. Talk to me about how to start doing less and how to start BEING MORE.

People don't know I'm good at

Singing! I won a series of singing awards as a child and in 2007 played one of the leading roles in the Queenstown (New Zealand) musical Grease in front of 15,000 people.

My TED story

In 2009 I met Marie who was dying with Cystic Fibrosis. We soon became great friends, and within months I'd encouraged her to dismiss her fears of dying and to embrace the rest of her life. We began doing the things that she'd previously believed impossible, things that others took granted: like walks in the part, trips to the movies, eating in restaurants and outings to the shops. In June 2010 Marie caught a chest infection which halted the progress we'd made together. Her doctors and nurses warned her not to take physical risks or over-exert herself in any way, however she really wanted to live. Upon this, we went for a 2 mile walk on the promenade, proving that just because we don't know how impossible things happen, they still DO happen. On the 20th Dec 2010, Marie died in my arms, grateful for having had the opportunity to live. Moments before her death, Marie found her life. Moments after her death, I found mine, from the dying girl who gave me a true perspective for living.

Favorite talks

Comments & conversations

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Posted 6 months ago
Seth Godin: The tribes we lead
Paul, I guess that if everyone was driven by fear of the worst possible outcomes like you have suggested, the world would never effectively move forward. I'd imagine it's quite easy to be critical when sitting behind the safety of a computer screen! So, going beyond just merely having a fear led opinion about creating tribes, What significant difference are you planning to make?
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Posted 11 months ago
Has society outgrown the institution of marriage?
I recently got married in July 2013 at the age of 34 (after much procrastination), I guess that we probably couldn't blame society at large for it's members unwillingness to value commitment. If marriage = commitment, and commitment = choice, everyone has the capacity and the free will to choose. Society generally just likes what's easy, therefore could be said to have outgrown marriage - however, building a strong relationship is HARD and if people prefer the easy life over the hard life, then marriage for many will seem of very little value. I don't know about society, but I've certainly experienced the value in marriage!
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Posted 11 months ago
Is having a social class inevitable?
Hi Cheyenne, I guess we're all brought into the world equal, and when our time is up - we're brought back to the same state of equality as how we began. Social Class isn't a real phenomenon, it just exists in the minds and hearts of human beings who believe that they are either better than, or not quite as good as others. I guess that as long as humanity exists, inequality will exist also. Socialism will not change the world, or the values of any of us, however, YOU can begin to change the world today by treating all the people that you encounter through life, as equals - not better than, not worse than. Social class unfortunately stems from our natural selfish core, and as long as that exists, social class will also. Unconditional acceptance is a very great and powerful thing ;)
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Posted 11 months ago
Are we Human Beings or Human Doings?
Hi Linda, It's funny how we can become different people around different people isn't it? Now this is only my perspective but I believe the point you've made is a valid one - I guess that's it is somewhat of a 'fine art' to be able to become all things to all people without having to sacrifice our personal values or core identity ... this has taken me a very long time to be able to fully understand! I'd love to someday experience a culture (with similarity to the one you've mentioned), where the cultural norm is to value personal authenticity over social identity. Thanks so much for your input ;)
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Posted 11 months ago
Are we Human Beings or Human Doings?
Hi Stephen, Thanks for the great input into the discussion. I guess that all we can really relate to is the extent of our own experience, therefore, upon being tired of superficialities and empty pleasantries in relationships (in any context), my perspective here is of one where I have grown to value personal authenticity over social identity. Disclosing to others who I truly am opposed to my social identity is always a risk and always has been, however, if who I am is found to socially unacceptable to others, I am able to identify the relationships worth investing into, and the ones that aren't. I am very fortunate in the sense that the fear of rejection by others left me a good number of years ago - I do however fully and unconditionally accept that this is not always the case for other people. I guess that having freedom from the concern of the opinions of others fully enhances my ability to just simply 'be'. Kain
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Posted 11 months ago
Are we Human Beings or Human Doings?
That's a great question & is one that took me a number of years to understand. In what may be a long winded attempt in answering this, I'd be happy to share my story. For over 8 years of my life I served in the British Army as a Soldier. In this time I defined myself as a Soldier. Upon leaving the Army I spent over 7 years in unfulfilling roles of which I tried to 'define myself' as to others, such as a financial consultant, a car salesman, a marketing consultant or even a cherry picker (and I did actually do this for a season), I felt pretty low and insignificant based upon the level of self value that I felt as a Soldier. The problem was that I left the army for a reason, being that I no longer wanted to be a soldier! As you may imagine, this left me with some serious mental and emotional problems - the things that I had done with my life until now were not congruent with who I believed myself to be (of which I'd never even actually defined). Upon meeting a very wise man in the midst of my worldwide travels in search for this answer, I was asked a profound and life changing question: "If you were to define yourself NOT by what you do in life but by WHO you actually know yourself to be, who is that person?" I can promise you that this answer did not come to me fast, but over the period of about two years, I grew to realise that I am loving person, an honest person, a reliable person, a creative person, a genuine person, a sincere person, a passionate person, a caring person, a pro-active person and not your average 'run of the mill' guy. Upon this revelation of who I was, everything about my life changed. Today, 'What I do' with my life stems from the core of 'Who I am', My name is Kain Ramsay and I am a Life Balance Coach, Passionate about helping people to discovering a true Identity and a reason for living. What I do with my life today, is based solely on who I know myself to be. I hope this answers your question, Kain