Sandy S

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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
Which is the kindest country in the world?
I'm not sure what country is the kindest but I do know it would be somewhat primitive by definition. I'm taking kind to mean to other people as well as the environment. Hunter-gatherers, nomadic peoples, descendants of ancient civlizations like Eskimos... A country with a population like this would seem to be the answer.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
Is modern communication going to produce a generation that doesn't understand body language or verbal expression?
This is an excellent question. I think we are actually seeing the beginnings of a generation that won't be able to spell or write in cursive, due to pre-emptive text and typing. I also think future generations won't be able to remember anything either since they can Google everything but that's another topic. Skyping, texting and emoticons means there must be some type of "action" going on as opposed to two people sitting together and just enjoying each other's company without talking. What's going to happen to looking in each other's eyes or good old-fashioned flirting? Will they be able to "size someone up?" How will they act in situations where there are no appropriate words? You can't hug someone over Skype and a hug emoticon won't cut it. I make sure my two children have actual physical interactions with their friends. For example, two of my daughter's friends live on either side of us. When they start texting each other for more than two minutes, I make them to go outside. When my son is outside with his friends, I confiscate their handheld playthings/phones and tell them to play games with each other. Run around and be physical or use their imagination and make shapes out of the cracks on the ground or play with the dogs as our neighbors walk them by. I want them to know technology is great but human interaction was here before technology and it will be here after and they have to learn to deal with both.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
What "seemingly" useless talent have you applied to life's tough situations?
i can find the humor in anything. Literally. It doesn't matter how inappropriate or if no one else get the joke, I'll find something funny about the situation. Sometimes the gravity of a situation can hit me days later... I think for me, the laughter is a defense mechanism for when I can't immediately handle the shock to my system.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
If you had to choose between always being on your cell phone or never being on it for life which would you choose?
I would choose never being on it. I'm of the age where I remember the time before cell phones and all this technology. People still had home phones and there were working pay phones on every other corner. And the calls were $.10! I went outside to play with friends. We went inside when the street lights came on. Our parents would call us out the window...
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
Material Possessions - The Path To Happiness?
"Home is where the heart is." "Love is a house..." The more material possessions one accumulates, the more time one has to spend tending to them instead of living life. I think the path to happiness is two-fold. 1) Figure out what you're like/love to do. It doesn't matter if your good at it as long as you love it. It should be something that is yours alone and doesn't involve another person. 2) Do it. I think some people think happiness can be measured but since there is no standard way to do that, people put a "happy value" on material possessions. A new car = happy. A mcmansion = estatic. Flawless diamonds = woo hoo, I've arrived. But when all that stuff is taken away and that person is naked as the day he/she was born, what did they actually DO? Where did they travel? What books did they read? What did they learn? Who did they befriend? Did they love somebody? Did somebody love them? The stuff that can't be taken away is the stuff that matters.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
If parents showed more of themselves, would kids develop better, healthier coping skills?
In a word, yes. I have two children, a daughter and a son. We would be spending time together having a happy moment and they would say "mommy, you're perfect!" and I would tell them only God is perfect. I let them know that I just do the best the can and make it look easy. I let them know there is no shame in a good cry, a healthy scream or having "alone" time to grieve, reflect or plot and scheme LOL. I talk to my children about why I'm angry, sad, happy, whatever, within reason (appropriate to their age and level of understanding). When they go through something, I let have their moment(s) and then I'm there for them. Raising children by alternating between "be seen and not heard" and babying them has us dealing with a least a generation of emotionally stunted young adults. The flip side of this is: There are two ways to learn something. Either emulate a positive action or do the opposite of a negative one. At some point even children realize their parent(s) might not deal with stress the best way and in that moment they can decide to react differently.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
Which is more contagious? The smile or the frown?
I think a smile is more contagious. I see smiling like bees spreading pollen - positivity cannot (and will not) be contained. Frowning, and negativity, are like crabs in a barrel. You won't be subject to the crabs if you're nowhere near the barrel. I do think people are innately more good than evil, although, as with anything, you have your flat ends of the bell curve - pure good and pure evil. Even though I think people are mostly positive, it seems negative people work harder trying to recruit miserable company.
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Sandy S
Posted almost 3 years ago
What is the Perfect Person?
I would answer this question by taking human empiricism out of it. In other words, instead of asking "how do we, as simple humans, see perfection?", start by looking at Adam and Eve and finding a) the person most like them or b) the person least different from them. I would go one step further though and give the perfect person a "birth handicap." Adam and Eve were created and a person, no matter how perfect, would still be subject to his/her parents genes.
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Sandy S
Posted about 3 years ago
How do you make people more smarter?
Exactly. The next question is: Best and brightest in what? If someone is highly proficient in something I don't enjoy or deem unimportant, how can I rightfully say they're the best at it? Everyone is born to excel at something. If you watch children, you will notice that early on, a lot of them show an afinity for something. That, is the thing that should be nurtured without judgment. If more children are nurtured to be the best at what they're already good at, we'll also have happier children.
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Sandy S
Posted about 3 years ago
What if Brands didn’t exist?
If choice didn't exist, we wouldn't miss it. However, there will always be a choice - look at nature. "Brands" are just one way of telling one type of thing from a similar one. We're the ones that put importance on the brand based on aesthetic appeal, fit, taste, emotion. We don't pick a brand of roses, rather a color. Branding is a corporation's way of getting more of our money.