Clint Anderson

Desoto, TX, United States

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Clint Anderson
Posted about 3 years ago
How are global youth changing our future? Are they Generation We or Me?
Way behind and way worried! Parents no longer teach and expect their children to respect others, to delay gratification, to put others above themselves and most importantly, do every thing they can to keep their children from suffering. They don't understand that the role of emotional pain is to teach us either about ourselves or others, if we don't go through and face that pain we become emotionally stunted. and inept in relationships. They expect others to be responsible for their happiness and the pressure then destroys the relationship. We no longer expect character, honor and integrity in our children and the "villiage" is no longer allowed to help in raising our children. I work with these people and children every day and if we don't create a large scale change soon we will soon not have any adults, just older children!
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Clint Anderson
Posted about 3 years ago
Do humans have a "Human Nature" or are our behaviors motivated by our cultural backgrounds?
The implications of adopting such an argument are enormous. Imagine if we all looked for the self-absorptions in our interactions and worked hard at changing them to be more othercentered. Relationships would be far more healthy and rich in intimacy. Imagine if we understood how hurtful our self absorption is and how that would change if we were simply committed to never be hurtful. As a clinician, I have seen clients make lots of progress on their journey with a better understanding of this idea. The focus in no longer on being right or even on being smart--it would be on connection--two ideas that often don't fit, rightness and connectedness,
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Clint Anderson
Posted about 3 years ago
Do humans have a "Human Nature" or are our behaviors motivated by our cultural backgrounds?
Thomas Hobbes argued that when you travel in a field and find a rock turn it over and describe what you find. What you find are insects. These insects compete for and destroy one another for the resources under the rock. He was arguing the point to express the need for government. Without it, anarchy will prevail. I'm paraphrasing of course. But is this a truism? In my experience and still limited understanding of all societies, I believe it is true. So, then, what does this say to us about the nature of man. I believe it tells us that self absorption, barely distinguishable from self preservation, rules as the nature of man. Consequently, humans are all on a continuum from self-absorbed to other-centered. Where we are on that scale dictates how functional our interactions are. Therefore, our nature's origin is self-absorption and our nurture then determines our other-centeredness. Our othercenteredness is then the result of our environments, parents, teachers, communities, culture and so forth. In societies, or at least our society, we are bombarded by all forms of media and I believe education to be and do your own thing. That the sense of self and ones expression of self is always healthy. Look at how many discussions are about, what I think, like or dis-like. Most conflicts, marital or otherwise are about self-absorption. Look at depression, it begins and is maintained by a focus, rumination of self. What hurts, what I'm bad at, how ugly I am, how overweight I am. If my hypothesis is correct, we should see such correlations in most, if not all, interactional diagnosis. The treatment then is not about symptom management, it's about people moving from self-absorbed to other-centered in both cognitive and behavioral manners. There is much more to be said about such ideas and I hope this idea is helpful.