Paediatric Surgeon - trying to rationalise the care I provide - in a global environment which talks about "state of the art" and sidelines common sense and affordability. Trained in paediatric surgery in the UK and work in Kolkata. A few things which keep me sane - music, animals and dancing
Medicine, music animals
A "bamboo hospital" -- by which I mean a non-state-of the -art hospital which is built keeping the environment and the people it serves, Not just a poor imitation of something built "elsewhere". A hospital which people can use like their neighbourhood shop/store. Which does not frighten , oppress or impoverish. Built with local materials and built on a foundation of common sense
anything at all
Or not everyone knows - I'm good at dancing
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A comment on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
Thank you.
A comment on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
I am also trying to see if my idea that the "dysfunctional family" is the rule rather than the exception is what other people feel too.
Thank you for your thoughts and contributing.
A comment on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
Mary, your thought of substituting the word "family" with marriage/government/religion - well I consider them all "family" structures. The family being the unit and everything else multiples and variations of that unit.
I think the accepted belief that the "dysfunctional family" is the exception rather than the rule is wrong. Its the other way around. My thoughts. May be over the top. But my perspective on the world as I see it.
And as for the "human" angle to it - but ofcourse we are "human". This conversation would not be happening if we were not.
Scot, am trying to see if other people consider this idea/graffiti of mine a problem too. And only then can we look for solutions. I daresay most people have found their own solutions and others are "happy" just to live with it. No one really wants to rock the boat.
Many have rejected the family structure completely - the "loners/misfits/outcasts" (labelled by society not me), and are not even going to respond to TED conversations. I wish one of them would.
Edward dear, your persistent protestations are wonderful! I look forward to them. Where would this "graffiti" be without you adding a little bit to it every day?
They tell me more than you can imagine. Dont stop!
A reply on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
You are indeed blessed.
As you say "there are plenty of families where all of those things you describe exist".
More than we know or acknowledge.
A reply on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
I was part of a "normal" family with all its problems and joys.
It interests me that people are so quick to jump to conclusions.
I too would "emphasize the great outcomes of a well-run and loving family."
I am asking people to examine their own families and say they are free from the things I mentioned at the family level TO START WITH. You did not say anything about that. Some people did.
I suppose I must learn from this "conversation" how to put my "question/idea" in a way in which most people can understand the question first ---- without taking offence, becoming defensive or analysing my reasons for questioning.
A reply on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
That is the "question"
You can respond in any way you like. I am not making it "difficult."
I see neither rationale nor respect for my "idea" in your comments.
A reply on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
Would be nice to have honest answers to the question first, now that you admit there may actually be a question!
The solutions, if there are any to be had, follow the answers.
Each person will find their own solution or their own way as Adelo and Peter Law have already described in this conversation.
I am sorry you think it is graffiti. Then again a lot of people now treat graffiti as art!
I could also ask you why you sound so angry. Then again this is a free forum, You are free to be angry and I am free to post an idea which you consider graffiti.
Yes I do want replies to my "idea/graffiti".
Even a simple yes or no , with or without solutions,would do.
A comment on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
Everybody is sooooo happy!
Most people are extremely unhappy with me for using the term fakebook.
Including my own family!!!!
A reply on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
I am only asking a question not looking for solutions.
Humans find the solutions once they admit there may be a problem.
The family has gone on for ever. It is unlikely that there will be an alternative.
Communes were once very fashionable but died out.
Ishika
A comment on Conversation: The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family
I am going to try and clarify once more what I am trying to propose.
Repetitive but necessary.
The idea is that we tend to say a lot of things are going wrong in this world because of societal "evils".
I believe that "societal" evils have its roots within the family. That's where it starts and not the other way around.
I have been a part of many families other than my own genetic one.
I am not proposing in this conversation to "replace" the family.
I am not going to even bother to respond to personal accusations of what my "personal anger" etc is or is not about.
I am not offering solutions as to how to rear children etc.
I am asking people to examine their own families and say they are free from this at the family level TO START WITH.
The comments so far, seem to be bringing the responses I thought they might. Anger, defensiveness, solutions offered to me for being "happy". May I clarify that I am not looking for solutions.
The defensiveness is not surprising.
As someone wisely said many years ago "hypocrisy is the cement of society"
Thank you Samir for being perhaps the one person who appears to understand what I am trying to say. Must look at those advertisements you mentioned.
Adelo and Heather you too understand.
Heather I shall look for the book "Forsaking the family". Thank you.
Edward the idea is that Societal ills are only family ills magnified. That the family is where it starts.
TED takes twenty four hours before they decide that the idea proposed is worth posting as an idea. Thank goodness I do not need a critical mass of approval before I propose an idea