Lorraine Owen

Gulf Shores, AL, United States

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Lorraine Owen
Posted 11 months ago
Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what
Thank you for the correction. How does that change the fact that he was involved in having at least 2 other children, possibly 3, that do not live with him, by his choice, but live with the mother and another step-parent? The point was that he fathered other children that do not live with him and he knew that he would not have them live with him, their father. He and his partner have only one of Mr. Solomon's children living with him.
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Lorraine Owen
Posted 11 months ago
Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what
Don't you think that that is a natural response and parental duty? Also, your comment must be geared to the part of Mr. Solomon's talk that dealt with his mother's response to Mr. Solomon's homosexuality. It could not be geared to the child who was deaf, etc. I say this because the premise seemed, to me, to deal with loving parents. If what I am stating is true, why would Mr. Solomon group homosexuality with disabilities (again, his word)? Put together with the part of his talk where he asserts that he has 5 children in 4 homes in 3 states, I just cannot correlate Mr. Solomon's decisions with unconditional love - and that was the subject of his talk.
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Lorraine Owen
Posted 11 months ago
Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what
Thank you, everyone, for responding to my comment. In my initial commentary, I felt Mr. Solomon was being smug. Please allow me to explain. Mr. Solomon states that he and his partner have 5 children in 4 different homes in 3 states. People applauded. If a heterosexual male said the exact same thing under the same circumstances (he was with a {female} partner and only one of his children, and this was planned, lived with him), would that garner applause. I don't think so. So why the applause? Because he is homosexual? How does that change the fact that he gave some of his children away, knowingly and from the outset, and that these children will become aware of that at some point in their lives. And that these children will also know that Mr. Solomon allowed one of his offspring to live with him and his life partner. To me, the gist of this speech, LOVE, parental unconditional love, is something every parent knows deep in their hearts. Some parents egos get in the way of this. Most people, religious or not, do KNOW this. Is Mr. Solomon stating the obvious to remind us of this? That's a beautiful conversation. I feel that we might remind Mr. Solomon that children who know that their parent is a loving person would want to live with that parent. Mr. Solomon's smug remark about having 5 children, 3 or 4 of which I would extrapolate are his, in 4 different homes in 3 states seems so egotistical, so completely enamored of himself and not of his, HIS children, I just cannot get my mind around that. I am speaking only to his life situation - he did not have to give away his children. I imagine he views this contribution as an act of kindness. The fact is, he has NO IDEA how this reality will affect his children. NO IDEA. What if a homosexual couple that wanted their own child wanted a woman to convenience them. What if the woman did not want a child, she just wanted to "experience" pregnancy. What would a child feel learning this about a parent?
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Lorraine Owen
Posted 11 months ago
Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what
Thank you for your comments. You have no idea of my history of relationships with a child, or children, who have challenges or disabilities or as you term it, differentially-abled. Let me be more specific. No LOVING parent would want to see their child, or any child, suffer. Mr. Solomon was speaking of parents without being specific. He did not focus on the likes of Josef Fritzi, or any other person of that ilk. I was assuming that the responses and opinions of the comments would deal with the criteria of Mr. Solomon's talk
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Lorraine Owen
Posted 11 months ago
Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what
I'm wondering if I live in a rarified atmosphere or do I live where most people live....I say this because I don't actually know anyone, ANYONE, who would deliberately discriminate against anyone with a disability. I do know people who have suffered with severely impaired children and who have hurt, deeply, for these children. And when they hurt they wished their children did not have to deal with these realities. What realities? Not that people discriminated, but that the children KNEW they had conditions that weighed heavily against what they may have imagined, or wanted, for themselves. No parent wants their child to suffer. NO PARENT. I don't quite get his talk. I wonder if his talk is a bid for himself - a bid to be unconditionally approved of rather than accepted. The idea seems to be that his talk has illuminated the minds of his audience - pretty audacious to me. All of the responses that sound as if they have had some epiphany - did these people discriminate before this talk? It seems arrogant to assume that these points need to be addressed regarding challenged people. Is Mr. Solomon saying that gay people are challenged also. Why is he stating the obvious regarding people who have physical disabilities? Mr. Solomon seems a bit smug to me - especially when he tells of how, and where, he has his family's children.