Apr 28 2012: Tina, please - if you can - get to a naturopath. They can find out why your brain isn't functioning right. It could be any number of things - allergies or sensitivities to all the junk in our air, food, water, what we wear, what we smear on our skin, the homes we live in; hypoglycemia; a systemic yeast infection; thyroid malfunction; a nutrient deficiency. There is all kinds of alternative health info on the internet and books like Nature's Prozac by Judith Sachs and Depression-Free, Naturally by Joan Mathews Larson (see her website).
You are important to many people and the world, too. You shouldn't be suffering.
Apr 28 2012: I know they are, too, and please accept my condolences on your daughter.
Preston saw a psychiatrist briefly and got better for a bit, but couldn't afford his anti-depressants and we didn't know or we would have helped (even though I am anti-psychotropic drugs). By the time we knew, he didn't care anymore. When he had scrapes with the law, I wrote letters begging them to mandate treatment and was ignored...twice.
Maybe it wasn't a life gone wrong. Maybe he was clearing up his karmic debt.
Preston (elder of two boys), 31, made no secret of his depression and wish to end his life. I tried to help him for years, but he got to the point he didn't want help - he wanted out. He had constant thoughts of worthlessness, that he was a burden, that we'd be better off without him. It caused him physical pain, esp. in his back and stomach. He had horrible nightmares. He self-medicated with alcohol and drugs. He was happy for a few minutes when he married and had a son, but he managed to sabotage that with his erratic behavior. He just didn't feel he belonged here. He was popular, had friends, no bullying, girls loved him. He was handsome and had a brilliant mind like so many of the suicides I know of.
Apr 24 2012: Thank you! It's been almost 5 years since Preston left and I joined the AOH a year and a half ago to let new members know there is life after suicide.
Apr 23 2012: To say suicide is a 'choice' implies there was logical thought before the act. It is not a choice in most cases, but the only way out of a hopeless life full of both physical and mental pain and self-loathing. When you've got an endless loop going through your brain telling you how worthless you are, how nobody wants you, how you're nothing but crap; when you can't feel love or joy or find the tiniest pleasure in life; when the pain of living overcomes the fear of death, suicide happens. How can there be shame? Why do people care so much what others 'think' - especially when it was someone you love so very, very much that could not face another day?
I made no secret that my son died of depression almost 5 years ago. I mentioned depression and asked everyone to be aware of the signs in his obituary. I got nothing but good feedback and thanks for bringing it into the open, where it needs to be.
We have no right whatsoever judging others. Period.
Apr 23 2012: With all due respect, I'm sorry, but I cannot get behind anything that pours more money into fake cancer research. Big pharma is not in the business of making us well. Quite the opposite.
There have been real cures for cancer around since at least the 1880s. The people who dare to make this public are scorned, ridiculed, persecuted, and ruined by both the medical profession and FDA - which are, of course, owned lock, stock and barrel by the pharmaceutical companies. Any truly promising treatment is swept under the rug because the natural substances cannot be patented.
This is over-simplified, but there isn't room to write the dastardly ways in which pharma is continuing to kill us and our loved ones with their poisons.
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A comment on Conversation: How do you move beyond why, when someone takes their own life? How do we get beyond the shame?
You are important to many people and the world, too. You shouldn't be suffering.
A reply on Conversation: How do you move beyond why, when someone takes their own life? How do we get beyond the shame?
Preston saw a psychiatrist briefly and got better for a bit, but couldn't afford his anti-depressants and we didn't know or we would have helped (even though I am anti-psychotropic drugs). By the time we knew, he didn't care anymore. When he had scrapes with the law, I wrote letters begging them to mandate treatment and was ignored...twice.
Maybe it wasn't a life gone wrong. Maybe he was clearing up his karmic debt.
A reply on Conversation: How do you move beyond why, when someone takes their own life? How do we get beyond the shame?
Preston (elder of two boys), 31, made no secret of his depression and wish to end his life. I tried to help him for years, but he got to the point he didn't want help - he wanted out. He had constant thoughts of worthlessness, that he was a burden, that we'd be better off without him. It caused him physical pain, esp. in his back and stomach. He had horrible nightmares. He self-medicated with alcohol and drugs. He was happy for a few minutes when he married and had a son, but he managed to sabotage that with his erratic behavior. He just didn't feel he belonged here. He was popular, had friends, no bullying, girls loved him. He was handsome and had a brilliant mind like so many of the suicides I know of.
A reply on Conversation: How do you move beyond why, when someone takes their own life? How do we get beyond the shame?
A comment on Conversation: How do you move beyond why, when someone takes their own life? How do we get beyond the shame?
I made no secret that my son died of depression almost 5 years ago. I mentioned depression and asked everyone to be aware of the signs in his obituary. I got nothing but good feedback and thanks for bringing it into the open, where it needs to be.
We have no right whatsoever judging others. Period.
A comment on Conversation: Let's follow my students lead, who changed my "make a viral video" assignment into a movement against Breast Cancer this Friday. MakeItPink.
There have been real cures for cancer around since at least the 1880s. The people who dare to make this public are scorned, ridiculed, persecuted, and ruined by both the medical profession and FDA - which are, of course, owned lock, stock and barrel by the pharmaceutical companies. Any truly promising treatment is swept under the rug because the natural substances cannot be patented.
This is over-simplified, but there isn't room to write the dastardly ways in which pharma is continuing to kill us and our loved ones with their poisons.