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I'm passionate about

living life on my terms and supporting everyone else, of all ages, to do the same

An idea worth spreading

listen to yourself and stop listening to the dictates of others

Talk to me about

child development, everyday child abuse, parenting, self education

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• A reply on Conversation: The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

  Apr 4 2012: When left to one's own internal, thoughtful devices from birth onward, the self criticism and shaming you refer to does not exist. Why would it? We get those messages from others who treat us as if they knew more or were more intelligent than we: parents, educators, spiritual leaders, etc. We are born intelligent, wise and capable. An environment of unconditionally supportive love and freedom allows us to grow maximally in the powerful directions unique to each of us. Good point Ed.
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  A reply on Conversation: The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

  Apr 4 2012: I LOVE the simplicity of what you say here. When we are really conversing, and not just "making conversation," for authenticity and joy and satisfaction we must have a connected sense of what is important to us. We do have to know WHY we are conversing. When conversing is satisfying and life enhancing, we are engaged. To be engaged requires a thoughtful presence that can only come from knowing who we are... or knowing why we are conversing. Thanks for this simple encapsulation of the essence of the beautiful and soul satisfying art of conversation.

• A reply on Conversation: The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

  Apr 4 2012: I love your comments and can completely relate to the distractions that most of us create for ourselves to assuage the horror of being alone, really alone, with oneself. That is the final frontier, aloneness. That state of full and comfortable immersion with oneself, alone.
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  A reply on Conversation: The place to start a real conversation is with oneself. This is the voice the voice that has been squelched, most often from birth onward.

  Apr 4 2012: I couldn't find your question so I can't respond to that, but yes, I agree that immersion into oneself very naturally leads to a desire to explore relationships with others. Perhaps not extroversion as we know it, but certainly a reaching out to others for contact and connection.