Eben Rose Posted 10 months ago Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20 Congratulations to you and to all your 20something cohort who have the luxury to "settle for a job that's 'good enough for now'" and who also enjoy the transcendent confidence that they could instead "be doing great things". Please know that you are among the vast minority of such privileged free agents among your generation. Others are working as waitresses, line cooks, store clerks, etc. because they must pay rent and fend for themselves without the luxury of such choice. They take on soul-crushing jobs not because these jobs afford them freedom from worry about their future "for now". Quite the opposite. For them the paths to fulfilling careers do not reveal themselves so readily or, more commonly, are effectively closed. Consider that over a million 20somethings presently serve as active-duty rank-and-file soldiers, sailors, and airmen. Many are enticed by the recruitment ads that offer this as a pathway to a more promising future (and a stable present) and are willing to risk life and limb to obtain that promise even if, in the end, the promise might not be kept. Most of these recruits face few other choices. They are not supported by trusts and endowments; they do not have parents who are paying for them to go college or for summer enrichment programs like Outward Bound. They do not enjoy the confidence that theirs will be a stable, fruitful future of the sort that Jay apparently enjoyed. We are learning now that millions in their 20s are strapped with crippling student loan debt-- a debt which was accrued in large part under the hope of building a career and of planning for the future. Where is that future now? What words of advice --or admonishment-- does Dr. Jay have for those who made the most responsible choices that presented themselves at the time and who are now unemployed, underemployed, suffering from PTSD, or who are otherwise struggling to stay afloat? Seems that Jay is the one who trivializes your generation as she liberally doles out the shame.