Mar 30, 2013 – So I'm working on an article about smarts and realized that the subject needed a bit of preening. So I thought I'd open with this idea to help orient y'all to the challenges of the real subject matter. Consider the personal ramifications of intelligence as a desire to be better. No not ambition or competition but being more competent.
For example, your marriage just fell apart, are you a) going to gripe over who's to blame, who didn't hold up their end of the bargin, who didn't behave in accordance with your expectations of their social ilk, or b) retrace your steps to figure out which bad idea lead to a sequence of bad decisions?
Maybe it was the type of person they were, maybe the relationship atrophied because you were pitting each other's esteem against who's version of the things you had in common was more valid. Regardless which of your decisions were compromises and which were misconceptions, how long will it take you to figure it out and learn from the mistake? Of course all of this is based on your desire to have your next relationship be better (no not more successful, this isn't a race), so when are you thinking and when are you reacting to the consequences of mistakes you haven't even realized that you've made? When are you your own worst enemy?
Intelligence is the desire to tell the difference, the desire to make the billions of subtle distinctions that orient our daily lives and have something to show for it.
Perhaps a better quality of life requires a more realistic grasp of the experience?
Love (in the broadest sense)
The things that they haven't even taken into consideration. Be it the clarity and truth of their history or their skewed perception of their present.
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